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Who is in the wrong here?

38 replies

Straughtnochaser · 12/08/2023 16:11

A and B go to an event, there are bag searches etc on the door. A gets turned away as they are carrying an umbrella which apparently is too big to take in - they are given the option to leave it at the door with no guarantee it will be there when they get back.

A instead chooses to find a storage locker about 40 mins away to leave it in - so 90 min round trip to come back. B is left at the venue in the meantime and doesn’t really have the option to leave as it’s a no re-entry policy.

they also both had tickets that needed people to arrive by a certain time and would have missed the time cut off due to A leaving.

B decides to leave as this isn’t the day out they had hoped for and thinks this isn’t worth the aggro for a £10 umbrella.

A is angry that B has gone.

who is in the wrong?

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Bemyclementine · 12/08/2023 16:12

A.

PetersSpecialCheese · 12/08/2023 16:13

A

KnackeredBack · 12/08/2023 16:14

Unless it was a gold plated umbrella, A was daft and unreasonable.

JoanCandy · 12/08/2023 16:14

A.

Ilovelurchers · 12/08/2023 16:15

I don't think anybody has done anything horrendous - it's just an unfortunate thing - so neither should be in a bad mood with the other in my opinion. Life is too short!

I would not have acted like A (can't imagine caring so much about an umbrella, unless it was a special one or maybe a gift?) Or indeed like B (I tend to be happy and like doing stuff on my own, so having to spend a bit of time at the event on my own wouldn't bother me.

But neither of them were wrong as such. We are all different, with different preferences and priorities......

category12 · 12/08/2023 16:19

A was a prat.
B should have gone ahead and tried to enjoy the event on their own.

VeridicalVagabond · 12/08/2023 16:20

I mean the real villains are the venue for turning someone away for a sodding umbrella. What a ridiculous policy.

But... A was ridiculous to not just leave it unless it was an irreplaceable heirloom umbrella.

Depending on what sort of event it was B might have been a bit soft to leave and not just occupy themselves for an hour and a half until A got back. But again this depends on the nature of the event, a festival for instance can very easily be enjoyed solo for a bit.

A has been the most silly on the whole though.

Cotswoldmama · 12/08/2023 16:21

A is the most wrong for leaving but if I was B I also wouldn't leave.

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 12/08/2023 16:22

Straughtnochaser · 12/08/2023 16:11

A and B go to an event, there are bag searches etc on the door. A gets turned away as they are carrying an umbrella which apparently is too big to take in - they are given the option to leave it at the door with no guarantee it will be there when they get back.

A instead chooses to find a storage locker about 40 mins away to leave it in - so 90 min round trip to come back. B is left at the venue in the meantime and doesn’t really have the option to leave as it’s a no re-entry policy.

they also both had tickets that needed people to arrive by a certain time and would have missed the time cut off due to A leaving.

B decides to leave as this isn’t the day out they had hoped for and thinks this isn’t worth the aggro for a £10 umbrella.

A is angry that B has gone.

who is in the wrong?

Would not bother for an umbrella

FrivolousTreeDuck · 12/08/2023 16:23

The venue is in the wrong for being so up itself it wouldn't allow an umbrella in.

rwalker · 12/08/2023 16:25

FrivolousTreeDuck · 12/08/2023 16:23

The venue is in the wrong for being so up itself it wouldn't allow an umbrella in.

Umbrellas can be used as weapons

Frogmila · 12/08/2023 16:25

A mostly. They should have taken their chances leaving it on the door the sake of an umbrella. However I don't get why B couldn't stay and enjoy the event on their own. Neither handled it brilliantly or very resiliently instead seemed to go for maximum fuss.

Original poster
Straughtnochaser · 12/08/2023 16:25

It was a festival yeah.

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TequilaNights · 12/08/2023 16:28

A... A storage place for an umbrella!?

Hide it in a bush and get it on the way out.

BanditsOnTheHorizon · 12/08/2023 16:29

Why would A go 40 mins away if she knew she'd miss the cut off time to get in anyway, she might as well have just gone home.

A is definitely unreasonable here.

BasiliskStare · 12/08/2023 16:30

40 mins to store an umbrella ? Or take a cheap and cheerful umbrella you don't mind losing

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Straughtnochaser · 12/08/2023 16:30

@TequilaNights this is what B said - b even offered to pay for the umbrella.

B could have been more resilient but think they were pissed off at A’s reaction. The act that they were meant to see wasn’t on for a few hours so they were a bit deflated about that and then the two hour wait while A fannyed about just tipped B over the edge.

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category12 · 12/08/2023 16:31

I think B was silly to go home in a huff, should have gone in and enjoyed it and then if A managed to get in (they might not have been so strict about the time slots in practice) they could've met up.

But A going off to store an umbrella and not just leave it at the gates is insane.

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Straughtnochaser · 12/08/2023 16:31

A also said b was “so selfish” for choose to stay at the festival (and then going home) rather than accompanying her to store said bloody umbrella.

full context, they would have had to pay for a ticket upgrade to get in later but there was no guarantee they would have got this

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DiaNaranja · 12/08/2023 16:32

A. It's fucking umbrella

cancan678 · 12/08/2023 16:33

Storm in a teacup. Both being a bit ridiculous

LightSpeeds · 12/08/2023 16:35

A mostly

Circumferences · 12/08/2023 16:36

I think B was in the wrong here.
It seems like a wasted ticket. I can easily spend time on my own especially at a festival.
I'd be pretty annoyed at B for a bit, but I wouldn't have left completely.

Bookworm333 · 12/08/2023 16:36

A, definitely, although B should have just enjoyed the festival on their own. Can't believe A expected B to walk for 40 minutes there and back to store their bog standard umbrella though - that's insane!

Circumferences · 12/08/2023 16:36

^ Annoyed at A...