Really unhappy in relationship.. shall I leave?

[Chocolatelover87]

I am almost 6 months pregnant with 1st baby & I don’t know if it’s my hormones but I am really starting to hate my partner.

He moans and starts arguments with me over the silliest things such as:

Closing all my windows when I go out (in my own house).

Wearing a face mask sometimes more then once.

But what burns me the most is how he constantly disregards my concerns about pregnancy when I have had bleeds or sometimes when I am concerned I can’t feel the baby move as much.

For months he told me “bleeding was normal in pregnancy” and I had to ask him in front of a midwife to shut him down and prove him wrong.

He also believes that having extra discharge is ‘my waters breaking and I should get used too it”.

He listens to my belly and hears noises which he believes is the baby moving but the midwife just confirmed tonight it can be the Amniotic fluid or my bowels.
Wrong again

He really is a thick twat who thinks he knows it all.

The final straw came tonight when I called the hospital and he started shouting at me “why didn’t I call the hospital in front of him”?.
Apparently I have got something to hide and I’m “loose”.

Another thing that scares me is how he speeds with me in the car, he will often do 40 mph in a 30 zone and tonight did 50mph in a 30 zone.
I had to get him to stop the car so I could get an Uber home as I was so scared.

I really want to leave this horrible relationship, he is not supportive at all and will always find something to pick on me for something which I find bullying.

I currently have a UTI and on antibiotics and not feeling the best and still he is moaning and picking rows with me.

Am I just being over sensitive or is it him?
I would rather be alone then to have to endure this man much longer.

Hah of course he has a XL.

Get rid. Your life will be more peaceful.

Oh my lovely, run. Run for the hills NOW.
He is an immature, abusive bastard and PPs are right. He will NOT get better. I too am a dog lover, but his attitude towards the dog being trained so will be ok around the baby is misguided at best. I understand your concerns.
You sound as if you are a sensible woman with your head screwed on. You can do this, the nest of vipers are behind you!

Move back to your family, disappear from the bf, he’ll move on to someone else as soon as you are no longer available.

‘He really is a thick twat. He has always been like this’
a dangerous driving, dangerous dog owning ‘thick twat’ was never going to be great father material. There’s nothing to leave, you don’t live together, just live your life and figure out how on earth you’ll co parent with utter trash.

You absolutely need to dump. If he turns up phone the police.

Your baby should have your name.

But you need to get legal advice about access as he has a dangerous dog.

You need to break up with him. The sooner the better.
He sounds like an ex I had. It took me far too long to realise how abusive he was.
Women's aid can support and advise around, if necessary, getting an order so he can't come near your home or workplace. As can the police, ask to speak with their domestic abuse specialist team.
Good luck, and if you can manage to move closer to family and away from him, I'd do it. If a letting agent refuses to let to you because you're pregnant, that's against the Equality Act, so hopefully they won't be daft enough to try that.

Let's turn the question around for a second @Chocolatelover87 . Why wouldn't you leave?

What is keeping you in a relationship with him?

You really have to get rid of him. You have no other choice. I'm sorry.

OP, you need to ask?
Say goodbye to him. Phone the police if he becomes threatening, either personally or with his dangerous dog. Or if he turns up at your door.
Apart from anything else 'He really is a thick twat who thinks he knows it all.'
I married one of those. It didn't go well.

Your concerns regarding his behaviour are legit. I would be asking the same question if my partner were behaving like that.
Get your space, don't let him move with you and at one point end the relationship. He is no good.

Lol what a miserable person you must be goading a pregnant woman 😂😂😂😂

Yeah, this is really quite nasty. This is a woman looking for advice on how to get out of a bad relationship and your take is to put her down and jeer at her? Really nice, you must be proud of yourself.

Eh? I was asking if the post I replied to was being sarcastic. Not goading whatsoever.

You sound lovely and you and your baby deserve soooo much better and you’ll be able to have a lovely life with him.

you’ve got 3months before baby arrives, so while your pregnant and getting support from services (healthcare etc) I’d say it’s the best time to leave. You can let midwife etc know what’s going on as I know they are always keen to make sure new mums are in healthy relationships.

you can do this. Please do it.

it won’t be easy but it will 100 percent be worth it. You are never going to regret splitting with him.

takr care

Please please leave him. He literally sounds awful.

You can raise your baby alone and probably better than what you would do if you stay with him.

You deserve more than this, don't show your child it's acceptable to be treated like this.

Thank you for your lovely reply & kind words of support.

I am quite keen to move closer to family for support but with me due to go on Maternity Leave next month I dont think letting agents would rent too me.

I defo do need support and will mention it to my midwife at my next appointment.

I literally cannot stand being near him, I do everything myself anyway so leaving him won’t be a massive loss.

xxx

Oh dear. He really is quite the inadequate little man, isn't he!

Big dog, drives too fast, useless and a bully? Mm, what a treat 😉

These are the points you have written that jumped out at me.

I would rather be alone then to have to endure this man much longer.

Yes! This is where your head needs to be. Practicalities can be worked around if you have family support. I wouldn't want to be around him either.

He is adamant that he wants the baby to take his surname and says it won’t really be his child if the baby has my surname

Tough really 🤷🏻‍♀️ Give the baby your name. Both my children were born 'out of wedlock' (later married) and both children had my last name. It's clear this man won't be around in the long term. And, even if he is, don't burden them with the name of a useless bullying fuckwit. Give them a name they can love and be proud of.

I literally cannot stand being near him, I do everything myself anyway so leaving him won’t be a massive loss

Good for you. Its far easier to he a single parent than to try and do it with an emotionally deficient, willy-waving millstone around your neck!