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some one from work confessed he really likes me .. help x

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 11:07

im in a complete mess changed my name for this, my dp hasnt been as straight with me as id have likes been texting other people whih he calls harmless flirting, i feel so let down by him and completley dissapointed in him although i love him so much and really want to be with him but my dilema being some one from work who always has made me laugh confessed last night he really likes me, and think i like him but dunno if its just cos my dp has been such a shit lately, hes asked me to go out on a date and to be honest i wanna co.... dont lynch me! just duuno if im just doing to to get revenge or if i like this bloke as dp isnt making me laugh much right now, aaargh dunno what to do! any advice

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Kaysleighbells · 14/12/2004 11:09

I think you have to sort yours and your dps relationship before you get involved in any way with anyone else. It'll just get too messy.

msann · 14/12/2004 11:10

ditto ....think u like idea of new bloke cos things are bit crap with dp

gothicsanta · 14/12/2004 11:12

if things were right at home ould you be feeling like this?
Attention is nice and can turn your head - do you feel what you have with dp is worth holding onto - can you restore the trust with him .
Do not do anything you may regret- take it as a compliment but sort out home first.
Being tempted is not a crime it normally comes about cos something in your current relationship isnot right if you can identify this and work towards resolving it one way or teh other your head will be cleared to make a decision about what to do

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 11:15

yeah dunno if i maybe am just craving a little tlc, and attention, suppose going anywhere near this guy will only make things more complicated! hes just said some sweet things, and dp has never been attentive with me for so long now, suppose the grass aint always greener so they say , he just so makes my smile come out to play!

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 11:18

no if things at home were ok, i'd be so happy just cant trust him right now, i love him so much but would love to feel like he loves me too, takes him all his time and effort to tell m that! arghhh heads done in x

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gothicsanta · 14/12/2004 11:19

enjoy a harmless flirtation if it makes you feel good it can;t be bad and try to sort tgings out at home

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 11:25

suppose i could class it as harmless flirting

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lolliepops · 14/12/2004 11:31

do you think you will ever trust your dp again, as if truthfully you wont i think you might need to take a long hard look at your current relationship. does this guy know your envolved, is he expecting you to run away with him, or is he just looking for fun??

ChristmasCracker · 14/12/2004 11:34

I was recently pursued by another bloke and can really understand why this sound so attractive to you.
Me and dp have a very up and down relationship and he is crap at giving me TLC and then there suddenly was this guy wanting to meet up with me etc. I was very very tempted but in the end i decided that it just wasn't on really because dp would have been devestated had he found out and I also really liked the other guy and didn't want to regret going there iykwim.

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 11:37

yeah i know what ou mean christmas cracker ben friends with this guy for a long time bout 6 years and wouldnt wanna spoil things, lolliepops yeah i think i can trust him to an extent really dont believe he has done anything other that harmless flirting, i really dont wanna hurt him as i love him so much, just sick of feeeling walked over, cant remember last time he said he loved me without me prompting him!

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 11:39

just hiding at work at the minute hes due in here at 12 going to keep my head low while i have a think about things! oh bugger!

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IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 14/12/2004 11:52

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 11:59

he he he iwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday like your thinking, cheeky x

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IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 14/12/2004 12:15

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lolliepops · 14/12/2004 12:18

i supose its one of those where your gona do what ever you want to anyway. if dp has been treating you badly then i would say leave him and get this man at work if only life was so simple. i realy am no help am i!

lolliepops · 14/12/2004 12:25

IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday i wanted to say that but thought everyone would be shouting at me!

IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 14/12/2004 12:34

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 12:35

just seen him in work arghhhhh, got a horrid nerveous feeling bloody hell i really do like him, this is crazyness.... complete CRAZY! help lolliepops

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 12:36

whey hey come on join me lets all get naughty.... then i wont feel so bad! tis the season to be jolly afterall!

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IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 14/12/2004 12:40

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lolliepops · 14/12/2004 13:02

if your dp has been off haveing fun, well then whats good for the goose! go see him now and just ask when he would like to take you out!

lolliepops · 14/12/2004 13:04

how old are you?any children?are you married? or have any finacial ties to your dp? if mostly no's to the above get your glad rags on and put ya self about!

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 13:04

hes just text to say he'll come and see me at 2, feel sick, oh bugger

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IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 14/12/2004 13:05

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whitechristmas · 14/12/2004 13:07

lolliepops im 25, no kids, no ties in house, he owns the flat! think deep down i love my dp, think i might have a bit flirt but that'll be all!x

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