I hate people, what's wrong with me

[Grumpymummy78]

Hate is too strong a word. Just really fed up with people.
My own fault I'm sure for agreeing to things and saying yes too much. Looking after a school mum's animals while they're on holiday this week, really don't know why I said yes as there are so many, including horses! As I say, entirely my own fault. I'm a plonker as working full time plus doing a course and have my own DD to look after. Just feeling overwhelmed.

In general, I just seem to find that I want to distance myself from most people and only really be with my DH and kids. That's when I'm happiest. Most other peoples kids annoy me and many adults do too! I sounds horrible I'm sure.

Who would have looked after all the animals if you didn't? How much would they have paid them? Sounds like a lot of work for nothing back other than a few eggs.

Eggs??? Omg 😳

I'm not sure who would've looked after the animals if I hadn't..they went away a couple of years ago and asked a neighbour, but that neighbour has been a bit poorly since then so they didn't ask this time.
I suspect no other friends would've said yes as it's quite a distance to travel to the horses (as they're separate) twice a day etc.

Yep, eggs. They normally sell their eggs outside their house, like a lot of people do, and she still charged me for a box the weekend before they left! It's actually funny when I think about it.
Ah well..I've learnt from it.

Me too. Not interested in other people. I’ve retired and cut out any pests. Had years of it in the workplace. All I care about now is my family ie people to whom I show loyalty because they’ve never made me question theirs x

I think you need to work out how much time and effort it's taking you and ask them for some kind of payment accordingly. They are taking the mickey big time expecting all this for nothing. Look up rates for pet sitters in your area.
I feel your pain, I find it very hard to say no too!

Can't blame you at all Tidsley, then you have more time and energy for the people who really matter...

I wonder if it's a bit late Magnolia to charge them? I'd be happy with just fuel money to be honest! Think maybe this time I'll have to suck it up and learn the lesson..
but I agree with you - in that they're taking the mickey (and I let them!)

It's costing you fuel money to do this? Add in return you get a few free eggs?

Add up how much time it is taking and cost it up at minimum wage. Add in the fuel cost and anything else you are spending. Deduct the eggs costs.

When she gets back smile sweetly and say it was a lot more time than I expected - X hours plus £Y in fuel. The be quiet and see if she offers to reimburse you. That will tell you a lot.

If she says nothing then chuckle sweetly and say. ' 'With the cost of my time and the fuel I reckon I am £x out of pocket. I have helped you out this time but please don't ask me again. I can't afford to keep doing it' Smile. If she STILL says nothing about paying you she is just a user.

I am exactly the same op. I'm at my happiest and most content when I'm just with DS and DP. I'm very much an introvert and have gradually distanced myself from toxic friends and I'm so much happier. I too always see people around my own age out socialising all the time/drinking etc and I just think god I couldn't think of anything worse!

Yes Choux, just a few free eggs.
Thanks - I will grit my teeth (whilst smiling) and do that. I suspect she won't offer to reimburse me (and it will be very telling if she doesn't..)

We sound so similar holls.

I genuinely thought I'm such a oddball for feeling like this. But then, why shouldn't there be others who feel the same I guess..

Op I became much happier when I accepted that I'm not naturally that sociable and stopped having to pretend. Wish I'd realised this was OK before both my kids got through primary school and I made myself unhappy trying to be involved/accepted/part of the group.

Absolutely Chris, makes lots of sense.

This thread has really helped me with that realisation. I feel far better equipped to opt out of lots of things I don't want to do now. But yes - same - wish I'd realised sooner!