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In relationships, what gives you the ICK?

100 replies

Flutterbye22 · 31/07/2023 15:24

Give me your worst pet peeves!

for me, it’s got to be poor hygiene, bad manners, really weird sex noises (lol).

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Highlyflavouredgravy · 31/07/2023 21:05

Nothing, because I'm not 12

MayBe6 · 31/07/2023 21:05

And long fingernails.

Mummy2022FT · 31/07/2023 21:09

This may sound rude but If I see a male with long finger nails it actually gives me goosebumps.

One guy I was dating I was so into, but he had long finger nails. I had to give him an ultimatum. Next time I saw him he's cut them

Time40 · 31/07/2023 21:15

Definitely lazy journalism ...

... but that said, I agree with all these, apart from flip flops with jeans. What on earth is wrong with that?

Bapbap45 · 31/07/2023 21:16

These aren't icks though, these are things you don't like?

Isn't 'the ick' meant to be irrational, comes out of nowhere and there's no coming back from it? Plus they're way more fun to read than a list of shit things that people do!

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JustAnotherRandom · 31/07/2023 21:23

Stinginess, possessiveness & jealousy (makes me feel they can't comprehend how to be trustworthy), wanting/expecting all my time early on, stonewalling, selfishness, bad manners/rudeness e.g. to restaurant/shop staff.

Bizarre and unjustified, but couldn't get past him eating a pie before our cinema date - just totally gave me the ick. I can still see it. Bleurghh!

Another occasion, things were starting to get a bit steamy and he paused to fold my clothes over a chair. It was probably considerate, but killed the moment for me.

Not been out with anyone who does this, but when I see people sharing their food with a dog, it makes me wince. Taking it in turns to lick an ice cream or something - ick ick ick.

Original poster
Flutterbye22 · 31/07/2023 21:25

AsterixAndPersimmon · 31/07/2023 21:04

I’m Wondering what men would say gives them ‘THE ICK’ when it comes to women...

I wondered the same to be fair…

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SharpLily · 31/07/2023 21:26

A man who does anything, anything at all that reminds me of my (pretty awful) father. If they use certain words or walk or talk a certain way, or anything else that's anything like my father, makes me shudder.

Dombasle · 31/07/2023 21:28

Fat and flabby.
Very short.
Skinny.
Excessively hairy.
Poor hygiene.
Disheveled and unkempt.
Long hair.
Unshaven.
Very pale.
Tattoos.
Piercings.
Make up.
Northern accent. Sorry.
Doesn't like or is unkind to animals.
Impatient.
Nervous or shy.
Bad teeth.
Beard or moustache.
Balding. Bald is fine but a big receding hairline isn't.
Sports team obsessed.
High pitched voice.
Mean.
Doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere.
Lazy.

Original poster
Flutterbye22 · 31/07/2023 21:37

Bapbap45 · 31/07/2023 21:16

These aren't icks though, these are things you don't like?

Isn't 'the ick' meant to be irrational, comes out of nowhere and there's no coming back from it? Plus they're way more fun to read than a list of shit things that people do!

That’s very true actually… rightly pointed out.

For me, it’s still the very weird sex/orgasm sounds they make, that’s enough to put me off someone and never want to see them again.

Long fingernails for SURE.

Leaving the toilet seat up, or there being stains around the toilet.

When buying an ice cream, choosing vanilla.

A man who eats less than me (it would never work).

Using the term “hun.”

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J007 · 31/07/2023 21:46

Smoking, poor personal hygiene (I've found women in general and in my experience are happier to lounge around in 'comfs', and not wash unless going out), Fussy eaters (90% of women I've ever dated have been), indecisiveness (then I decide and am wrong ;), cuddling when it's way too hot in bed, snoring and fidgeting in bed, too many false cosmetics (Botox, super long nails, eye brows), and lastly (just for fun) something that I really don't get - inflated backsides! - how is that even a fashion and when did it become cool to have a super sized bum? :)

GetInTheBinThenGetInTheSea · 31/07/2023 21:53

Guys that use baby talk. Absolutely ghastly.

Alltheusernamesiwantedhavegone · 31/07/2023 21:56

No DIY skills. Clumsy. No hygienist appointments. Rubbish in bed.

My now ex DH had no idea of general household maintenance. He was generally clumsy /inept in anything manual. Not very skilled in the bedroom dept either and only went to hygienist when I insisted. He expected the children to be quiet always so that he could he could spend hours and hours reading. He is a very educated type. I did all the DIY.

Ehhh, Ick! Divorced.

Also, no beards for me.

thenightsky · 31/07/2023 21:57

Sulking.

Alltheusernamesiwantedhavegone · 31/07/2023 21:58

@Specso Horrible toenails.

God yes, disgusting.

thenightsky · 31/07/2023 21:58

When buying an ice cream, choosing vanilla

Oh yes, and that!

Titicacacandle · 31/07/2023 21:58

Humongous beards are grim, stubble is lovely, big beards are gross.

I know this is awful as it's not something a man can help but bald shiny heads also make me 🤮

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Flutterbye22 · 31/07/2023 22:03

Alltheusernamesiwantedhavegone · 31/07/2023 21:56

No DIY skills. Clumsy. No hygienist appointments. Rubbish in bed.

My now ex DH had no idea of general household maintenance. He was generally clumsy /inept in anything manual. Not very skilled in the bedroom dept either and only went to hygienist when I insisted. He expected the children to be quiet always so that he could he could spend hours and hours reading. He is a very educated type. I did all the DIY.

Ehhh, Ick! Divorced.

Also, no beards for me.

and you had children with this man?!

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Original poster
Flutterbye22 · 31/07/2023 22:04

Titicacacandle · 31/07/2023 21:58

Humongous beards are grim, stubble is lovely, big beards are gross.

I know this is awful as it's not something a man can help but bald shiny heads also make me 🤮

True, not a fan of the shiny heads…

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retinolalcohol · 31/07/2023 22:08

Most petty one - anyone who comes round to my house and doesn't make a fuss of my pets!
They are basically my babies and any man with little/no interest in them is likely a psychopath Grin

Won't get off the fence about anything. Even picking somewhere to eat becomes hard work.

Muscular upper body with skinny legs

Gaming

Won't talk on the phone, only text - are we 14?

Yes men

Bewildbefree · 31/07/2023 23:51

Dirty hands
unkept toe nails 🤮
laziness
no sense of adventure
bad oral hygiene

Alltheusernamesiwantedhavegone · 01/08/2023 00:09

@Flutterbye22 and you had children with this man?!

Yes. I am a more confident person now.

CallieQ · 01/08/2023 00:53

When do sandals become 'old man' sandals

CallieQ · 01/08/2023 00:56

alpenguin · 31/07/2023 20:38

Extremely Smelly poo.
we all have an odour but when it takes over the house four times a day 🤮🤮🤮🤮

Does your poo smell of roses?!