Male friend keeps reminiscing

[Tarsaurus]

I have a male friend who I have recently got back in touch with …. He added me back on Facebook.

He keeps messaging reminiscing about our time together 5 years ago and said my husband looks like a nice guy and can I say hi to him from him?

is this a-bit odd?

Yes. block

I’m confused - does he also know your husband?

What do do you mean by 'our time together'? Were you a couple five years ago? Re the say hi to your husband stuff -- is it possible he's trying to figure out whether or not you've told your husband you're in touch with an old flame? (If that's what he is...?) That he wants to see if you'll admit you haven't told your husband, in case it means you're up for a shag...?

Nope doesn’t know my husband. He hasn’t ever met him. Said he looks like a nice guy in pictures?!

We were best mates and ended up liking me but nothing happened between us.

Reminiscing = not specifically saying “do you remember this” but more so relating current situations everything back to a certain situation of when we spent time together.

In my experience, men who contact a woman are almost always up to something.

Definitely block

Why block? Is his behaviour strange?

i'd block him, seems suspicious and like he's up to no good getting back in contact with you!

I would be wary of his motives in getting into contact.

I would slow down how quickly I responded to his messages and keep it very bland and vague in what I said, E.g. he asks what you did at the weekend, reply, not much, weather was a bit rubbish.

He wants to shag you

He wants to shag me? I don’t get that from the messages.

Reminiscing about when you had sex? Friendship? What do you mean by together?

If you've had sex, you really need to block. He's not chatting to you to be mates.

Reminiscing about working together. We’ve never been together.

Seriously?

yea it’s weird.

He’s feeling out your relationship with your husband while trying to strengthen your bond by relating to a previous time of being together (working, as you say).
”Husband is great, love each other more each passing year, can’t imagine life without him, thanks for asking,” might help, if blocking isn’t your style.
I expect he’ll check up now and then unless he gets another woman to focus on.

He's contacting you because he had the hots for you when you worked together. He's just out of a relationship or struggling to find one and has built you up in his head. He's bringing your husband into it so it seems above board, and also to get you on the subject so he can see if there's any cracks in the relationship. Carry on talking and his contacts will gradually get more frequent and more intimate. (I'm almost tempted to suggest you go along with it and report back if this is right!)

He takes ages to reply though. He replies after 5 days, 2 weeks etc and apologises for taking so long.
I don’t know what the end game is?

So I’ve done abit of digging and he’s in a relationship - long term.

Something isn't right with it then. Probably rowing a lot and his contacts and silences with you are following the ups and downs of his situation.

He probably doesn't know what the end game is either. He wants the excitement/reassurance/comfort of thinking he might have an iron in the fire with you.

I think this too.

He's being weird. I'd block or at the very least ignore. Ypu already think he's being weird or you wouldn't have posted. So why would you continue it to find out just how weird he's prepared to go?

It's a fishing expedition; he is hoping that you will say "oh, I don't tell my husband anything, actually we're going through a rough patch. Tell you what, let's meet up for a drink" and then you will confess all your problems and sleep with him.
Either that or he is just weird.

Why are you replying?
mid probably just ignore it. It’s odd. Assuming you’re not really bother by having a friendship with him?

I didn't mind re-connecting. We were good mates. I just wasn't sure if his questions were odd.
I haven't re-connected with a friend before so wasn't sure what was normal or not.