Friend falls into a bucket if sh*t & comes out with £50 notes in her mouth, every time. Anyone else resonate?

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As the title says. To quote my friend:

I've fully paid off my £8k car I brought 5 years ago and I've just been told it's worth at least £10k on the second hand market, so I'm told. Of course it is.
I've now fully paid off the £1k debit I had on my council tax (due to error on council part) and now I'm in credit. Of course you are.
I needed a new front door so I brought one for £1k (her mum paid, I know she didn't have the cash herself

I just ponder to Believe her sometimes

Am I bitter ?

She needs to find better friends.

Agreed. This post is weird and bitter -- not sure what OP is trying to achieve here, or what great sins the friend in question has committed.

@catsnhats11 LOL - I am originally from the South but have lived up North for many years now !

Yep, you’re jealous and bitter.
Why can’t you be happy when someone has a bit of good fortune! She got a new door, she hasn’t won the lottery!

The stuff she’s saying isn’t unbelievable, but I would find it a bit weird that she’s telling you so openly about her finances? In the circles I hang around in people wouldn’t just randomly tell you how much they’ve spent on stuff or how much money they’ve made, but maybe I’m the odd one 🤷‍♀️. As proven here giving away that kind of info opens you up to people being jealous, and gossiping about you

So it’s not that you don’t believe her, it’s that you’re jealous. Fine, but why call her a liar?

Op rather than focus about what's going on in ur ' friends' life, why not focus on making things better in yours?

You don't know what struggles are behind closed doors.

If you feel your life is so much worse, how could it be better? What's going on to make you so unhappy? What could you do to change it? What positive things do you have in your life? Are you depressed and struggling?

You can onky change things you have responsibility for. Thats your life, not someone elses

If your friend was being taken to court for CT debt but on the way to the hearing found a £1 coin, bought a lottery ticket and won the jackpot, that would fit the title of the thread.

As it is, she sounds like she has a fairly mundane life. She's paid off some debt and is now in a bit of credit. The Council haven't given her free money, she's just overpaid and is due some back. As a pp pointed out, she's probably paid more than the purchase price of the car when you add interest for paying in installments.

Her mum bought her a door. So what? It's not like she gave her a £££ million mansion.

You're envious of something that's not really all that enviable.

Might be worth investing in some therapy to get to the bottom of ego good things happening to leople around you, who you're supposed to like, is making you feel resentful.

If she was bragging and boasting and flexing af then I'd understand. But none of the things you've listed are huge 'wins'. They're just nice little things. And if my friend mentioned them to me I'd be like 'ah that's lucky! Good👍'.

Feeling resentful of such little things...clearly you're really not happy in your own life. Or maybe something in your upbringing has made you resent other people's good fortune. It needs unpicked with counciling imo. Or just, changing your life if you aren't happy.

*of why good things

That all sounds reasonable.

We bought an old BMW convertible a few years ago, it's currently worth about what we paid for it.

What an odd thread. She has a second-hand car that has gained money. Second-hand car prices are through the roof, ours has almost regained its value from when we bought it four years ago. She had to pay £1,000 because the council made a mistake that put her in debt, I don't see how that's a good thing. And her mum bought her a new door cos she couldn't afford one.

I'm struggling to see how any of this equates to a life that always comes up roses!

You come across as unhappy with your own circumstances. Perhaps focus more on gratitude and making the best of your own life. I prefer to have a miniscule social circle because true and lasting friendships are extremely rare, despite what you see/read on social media or hear in your sphere of RL influence. Take a step back, refocus and reset.

These things are not signs of good fortune, other than a mum who can afford and is willing to drop £1k for you, which admittedly is nice for her.
The car thing will depend on the deposit paid and the reliability of the information on its worth. Who told her? Steve down the pub? A car buying company, who are notorious for over inflated quotes to suck you in?
The CT thing just means she's paid enough on her installments to cover the debt and pay some of the current liability. The CT fairy hadn't dropped down with a handout, your friend has just paid more than needed to cover the debt.

I have in the past experienced these things and wouldn’t call it luck. My council tax overpayment was an admin oversight on their part - not luck just bad bureaucracy and a return to me of monies owed. The car thing is the current climate relating to lack of semiconductors for primary sales market - that isn’t luck it’s economy and manufacturing.

The door thing is an odd example we kind of need effective doors on our houses - who cares where the money came from?

You sound jealous.

it’s hard when you see people experience positive things that you don’t to try not to compare but there is always a side to the story you don’t know. My brother is an always lands on his feet type but his personal life is in turmoil and he takes his anxieties and lack of self esteem out on his body. No one on the outside would know that and just sees some lucky guy.

What is luck? really? It’s not an abstract thing that happens to other people. It’s a made up concept. Like cake is a made up drug