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Friend falls into a bucket if sh*t & comes out with £50 notes in her mouth, every time. Anyone else resonate?

65 replies

catsgoldfishandtoomanypets · 19/07/2023 23:32

As the title says. To quote my friend:

I've fully paid off my £8k car I brought 5 years ago and I've just been told it's worth at least £10k on the second hand market, so I'm told. Of course it is.
I've now fully paid off the £1k debit I had on my council tax (due to error on council part) and now I'm in credit. Of course you are.
I needed a new front door so I brought one for £1k (her mum paid, I know she didn't have the cash herself

I just ponder to Believe her sometimes

Am I bitter ?

OP posts:
DrinkFeckArseGirls · 20/07/2023 08:13

All I would say it’s certainly an expression I haven’t heard 😅

MollyRover · 20/07/2023 08:17

I've just gone nc with 2 "friends" because of an attitude like yours. One of them has genuinely had a very hard time recently but the other is just lazy and perpetually jealous of other people- thinks they work hard but only places importance on superficial things so can't see the difference in what other people value. It got to a point of them trying to sabotage everything I had or did, lightly damaging things in my home or planning things at the same time as an important event in my life. I realised that I don't owe them anything so stopped telling them how they've hurt me and just cut them off.

Decide whether you can get over your jealousy or leave your friend alone, she doesn't need someone like you in her life.

Ladybug14 · 20/07/2023 08:23

I dont know if you're bitter but all 3 of your examples sound true or plausible to me

ThisIsACoolUserName · 20/07/2023 08:24

Do you think £1000 for a new front door is a lot or very little?
Ours cost £3000 as we have a glass panel down either side.

AngelsWithSilverWings · 20/07/2023 08:28

I can well believe the car thing. I bought a three year old car in Dec 2019 for £14500. I thought about selling it earlier this year ( now a six year old car) and when I put it on Mototway they quoted me £15000.

I ended up not selling it because the brand new car I ordered last August was suddenly cancelled by the dealer this April due to shortages of parts and Brexit delays.

Second hand cars are more valuable now because of the difficulty of getting new ones.

tara66 · 20/07/2023 08:30

Try to make friends with the homeless. You'll feel better then. There will always be someone richer and prettier than you.

daisydaily · 20/07/2023 08:37

I wouldn't call you a "friend" if I'm honest.

Yes, you sound very bitter and not very nice.

liveforsummer · 20/07/2023 08:40

My car when first paid off was indeed worth more than the original price. For a while second hand cars were at a premium due to lack of new ones during/its after covid. There wasn't a huge amount of interest on it due to the scheme used ti purchase it either.

NeverThatSerious · 20/07/2023 08:43

Maddy70 · 20/07/2023 08:12

Imagine having a friend that only wished you to have a shitty life.....

Quite. Not much of a friend are you op?

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 20/07/2023 08:43

Yes you sound bitter.

Second had cars are selling extremely well right now and have been for a while

Doors easily cost that much and so what if her mum paid for it

And I don’t understand the problem with the council tax

I have 2 friends who always are similarly doing incredibly well whilst I, am not! Firstly both these friends have had struggles which no one would be envious about or begrudge them a bit of fucking luck

and secondly, god what a waste of time being bitter and jealous over someone else’s positives in life

Accovobe · 20/07/2023 08:43

Ok, after your update - yes I do think you're bitter.

I would try and sit with these emotions and try to work out what is really driving them and how you can change that. Your friend can't afford to buy her own door and being in credit with council tax is new-worthy - yet this is causing resentment/bitterness/jealousy in you?

JorisBonson · 20/07/2023 08:45

It sounds like she's worked hard to make payments etc. You just sound jealous and bitter.

Nolongera · 20/07/2023 08:46

OP are you saying she is lying / exaggerating the truth or are you saying these things genuinel happened to her?

Merveille · 20/07/2023 08:51

I’m not sure I understand the issue — where is she ‘falling into a bucket of shit’ and emerging with a mouthful of £50s? She sorted out an error with her council tax, her mother bought her a door, and a second hand car is holding its value. None of these sound like victories snatched from the jaws of disaster to me…

You get that whether or not she buys a door has no bearing on whether you can afford DIY in your house, right?

Tidsleytiddy · 20/07/2023 08:51

I’ve got a “friend” like you. I say friend but it’s just someone I’ve known a long time. She’s perpetually jealous of everyone and everything. She grew up poor. I didn’t. All that envy has never left her. It has made her a bitter and spiteful person who will do anything to come out on top where money and possessions are concerned only she makes wrong decision after wrong decision which ensures that never happens.

Clymene · 20/07/2023 08:52

Yes you're bitter.

Whadda · 20/07/2023 08:56

From your thread title, I thought we were talking about someone who is constantly upgraded to first class on overbooked flights, not someone who is managing their council tax sufficiently.

Weird thing to be jealous about, OP.

AlyssumandHelianthus · 20/07/2023 08:56

I'm confused. You're annoyed because she is lucky or your annoyed because you think she lies about fairly minor financial things?
Either way I think you'd be happier putting it out of your mind.

Karrpt · 20/07/2023 08:56

You ponder to believe she has £50 notes in her mouth after she fell in a bucket of shit when her mum brought her a door?

🤪

vodkaredbullgirl · 20/07/2023 08:57

Bitter much.

Overthebow · 20/07/2023 09:06

You begrudge your friend a £1k door? Really op there’s always going to be people who have more than you, if you can’t cope with that then you need to not be friends with her as it’s really not her fault. You can’t control what other people have but you can take charge of your own life and change what you have.

Arewehumanorarewecupboards · 20/07/2023 09:15

Surely you would be happy that your friend isn’t struggling?

hev126 · 20/07/2023 09:17

Feeling a bit down that you've personally not had much luck financially is totally understandable

Being bitter that your friend has and doubting she is telling the truth is not. A true friend would be happy for her (while maybe wishing they had similar "luck" - although she has worked hard and made payments)

Galatine · 20/07/2023 09:19

Her finances are none of your business!

catsnhats11 · 20/07/2023 09:27

Using brought instead of bought really irks, I see this a lot, is it a regional/ southern thing?

Anyway, all your examples sounds completely plausible, and there will always be people who have get things you don't have and sometimes life will be the other way round, maybe she envies your family/ partner/job/holidays/figure..etc. Maybe you shouldn't be friends with this person.