Does he still like me

[Confuddledandclueless]

I left my ex because he was being immature and just wasn't treating me right. Since then he's been texting me saying he gets why he upset me, thst I'm lovely, amazing, how he enjoyed being intimate with me and its confusing. He also insists on helping me with things like my car. I haven't seen him since the split no kids but being around him makes me feel anxious as he constantly out me down and now he's being nice.

I wouldn't refuse anything. Just accept it and say nothing. Bin it. Returning it, even via the post office systems, is communication with him.

Yes but accepting it is telling him you'll take in things he sends. It's telling him your boundaries can still be pushed.

Tbf refusing it could agrivate him into trying other methods though so it might be six and half a dozen.

Yes but accepting it is telling him you'll take in things he sends. It's telling him your boundaries can still be pushed

My boundaries aren't pushed if I receive a parcel and chuck it in the bin. I don't think anybody's are. No response is better than any other response. If you want to convince someone that they have no power over you, don't do anything in response to their petty efforts to wind you up.

Sorry I've been busy with my little one. Wasn't from him it was school photos I ordered.

I'm really struggling with the break up. I keep thinking of nice things he did too and he said a few weeks ago it's a shame I'm leaving over a misunderstanding and I wonder did I misunderstand? But I don't know how I can misunderstand him telling me he fancies his female friends (some of them exes) and pointing out its no different to me having male friends (I have never said I fancy them). I feel so alone. I do feel so confused as have so many lovely messages from him when we were together but then his actions haven't been pleasant (silent treatment, the constant women comparison). I have still got him blocked and it is illogical but sometimes having someone else with more clarity saying what they think helps.

he said a few weeks ago it's a shame I'm leaving over a misunderstanding

He's manipulating you. It doesn't matter what he thinks is a shame or what he thinks is a misunderstanding.

You don't like the way he makes you feel when he says the things he says. Decide whether you want a relationship with that in it. If not, stay away from him. That's it. He's made you feel shit, and his concern now is making you feel like you've misunderstood. He's not concerning himself with making you feel better, is he?

I've been thinking back to a relationship I had a while back recently. He was nice to me. But spoke of women as a whole negatively. It wasn't nice. So I ended it. I don't regret it. I felt such relief when it was over. But when I'm feeling lonely I tend to think back wistfully to the good times.

I think its OK to do that. So long as we can accept that this person wasn't right for us. And that the reason we're thinking back is maybe that we're a little lonely or generally unhappy right now.

You didn't misunderstand him. He wasn't a good person and you know that. Might be time to throw yourself into other passions and dreams and hobbies ect... find a new project to take your mind off things.

He makes you feel like shit. It doesn't matter if it's a misunderstanding, or if he didn't mean it, or if it's not all the time, or whatever other excuse he comes up with.

The end result of it is he makes you feel like shit.

Surely that's the absolute minimum criteria for a relationship, "Does not make you feel like shit"

What's the point of being a relationship and feeling like shit, when you could not be in one and not feel like shit?

Thank you all of you I do appreciate the time to respond to me. It's just harder to see when you're the one on the situation. I just don't understand how someone who said they loved me could do this but anyone can say anything and not mean it.