Has your boyf / hubby ever cried in front of you?

[LlamaMamma]

If so, over what?

His name isn’t John is it?!! Sounds very like my ex 😁

Twice a remember, at the funeral of a friend’s son , and when our cat was pts.

It's a strange question.

My DH cried at my DS's graduation. I was so happy and proud that day, but it was my DH (their long time step dad) who was in tears. Also at important sporting occasions, funerals, and when thinking about certain relatives who are no longer with us.

I cry very rarely.

Some people cry lots, some hardly cry. One thing I've learned - how much you cry isn't an indicator of how empathetic / caring you are. I had a friend who cried at the drop of a hat. After a while I realised it was only ever at things that affected her. She never felt any sadness or sympathy for anyone else. Conversely, I rarely cry but it doesn't mean I don't feel.... it just doesn't come out in crying for me. And, on the odd occasion I do cry, I much prefer to do it in private. It's just how I am.

So if your DH doesn't cry in front of you. a) it doesn't mean he never cries, and b) even if he never cries, it isn't an indicator of how he feels. Don't judge him for it.

When I've called him out for abusive behaviour, because he doesn't want to hear it. It comes with the inevitable gaslighting.

I used to fall for it and feel sorry for him.

Not. Any. More.

Yeah, lots of times

The most when our dog died I had to drive us home from the vet as he was in absolute bits

He's a normal, functioning man with healthy emotions

DH cries loads - I often put Greys anatomy on when we need a sob fest! He sobbed at our wedding in front of everyone, and people still talk about it as he owns a security firm and is built like a brick shit house so it wasn’t expected (by them, I knew he would!) He’s a softie!

No, not at all in 22 years. Not when his DM died, when he saw his DD on her wedding day or when his DGS was born.

I don't know whether he can cry.

He cried at my dads funeral. He cried when we were talking about our deceased dads. Not sobbing just wet eyes.

Just twice that I've seen. Once at his father's funeral, and once when he got a cancer diagnosis.

But I imagine I haven't seen everything, as he is the strong silent type for other people.

Only at his grandmas funeral did I ever see him cry and we've been together 21 years. He said he cried when he took ddog to be pts too, but I was at home with the kids. He's quite emotionally reserved though.

He didn't cry when his dad died.

But, he cried when our dog died, and regularly cries when someone scores an important goal in a football match or at a poignant film!

In 20 years, I've only saw my husband cry twice. Once was my Mum's funeral (tearful, as opposed to full on) and when our dog died (full on/heart breaking sobbing).

It depends on what you mean, full on sobbing not able to get words out, or tears up a bit while talking about something that hurts emotionally.

Former 3 times, death of both parents & wife (yes I'm a man)
Latter lots of times & partners never had a problem with it as they knew I am an emotional person.
I honestly think many women would be surprised how often men do actually tear up in male company but perhaps some try not to in front of women, as has been demonstrated here in case they were seen as weak?

Yes when the cat died and at the birth of our kids

Never. He lost his father, didn't shed a tear. Didn't shed a tear at the funeral, either. His eyes didn't even so much as cloud up when I gave birth to our daughter!

Lots of times. He is stoical about lots of things but has cried about his father nearly dying, the dog dying, his children being sad, watching upsetting new reports (usually a bout children dying) in frustration, anger and sorrow. Not as much as me but more than lots of people I know.

He cried when he realised what his prognosis meant and he cried on our wedding night.