Has your boyf / hubby ever cried in front of you?

[LlamaMamma]

If so, over what?

Yes, of course he has. When his Mum died , is the most recent time. At other appropriate times as well. I cry at about the same frequency .

Yes. Over something upsetting

When I gave birth to our daughter and when his dad died, that's it in 30 years.

When DH was terminally ill, more than once, and we cried together. I'd been advised by a nurse about discussing his wishes for his funeral. Not a good idea - only talk about this when you're both well and it's just a hypothetical discussion.

We'd both been brought up to keep a stiff upper lip. Now I'm widowed I cry whenever I damn well feel like it.

Only time I saw mine cry was when we lost our baby. And the funeral.
He's generally not a crier.

A few times over the last 32 years, only ever due to bereavements or tears of relief when our DS’s arrived safely in this world.

Yes, fairly often. Sometimes during movies or music if he's moved 🥲

This is sad, my DH is very emotionally intelligent but I don’t think I’ve ever actually seen him really sob in twenty years. Teary-eyed yes - when a friend died, certain emotional moments with our kids, when his Grandfather died.

Not a lot … been together over 30 years. Bereavement, dropping DD off at uni … someone he thought was a close friend turning out to be vile.

His DM's dementia. They were once so close, and she no longer knows who he is :(

More than I’ve cried in front of him! DH is a sap for movies/animals/anything nice. I’m a robot 😂

I've never seen him cry / get upset / worry about anything in 17 years.

I'm the total opposite.

I can relate to this question. I've never seen my partner cry in more than 20 years of knowing him. I have asked him if he ever cries in private. He says no, which I have no reason to disbelieve. I find it fascinating and unnerving that he doesn't. I'm much more emotional. Luckily he's had no major bereavements or seriously negative life events in that time, though, so he might be different under more severe stress.

We're brought up not to cry so tend to keep it in / bottle it up. Most of us have heard stories or experienced first hand how women tend to lose respect for you if you get emotional (apart from anger - that's fine for men apparently).

Unfortunately both sexes deal with stereotypes that negatively impact their health.

He’s crying right now. His father has just died.

This whole “big boys don’t cry” narrative is so damaging. Crying is a perfectly normal reaction to sadness, joy, fear, anger etc., regardless of your sex.

I think our wedding was the only time. Glad I made him cry though 😂 we have a toddler who walked down the aisle first and I think that probably swayed it 🙄

My DH cried once when we went to Crufts and we're watching the agility and this silly dog got a clear round! Bless him he doesn't know why he cried but it was more tears in his eyes haha

Three times in nearly 20 years.

When his grandmother died. When our cat was runover and he had to pick her body up from the road. When I had a miscarriage.

Of course. There have been many times but I won’t go into them here. I’m pleased he shows emotions when necessary, I want our son to see that it’s normal. Ot also means I know he actual feels things and will talk to me about problems. I don’t worry he lets a stuff eat away at him.

More and more often as he gets older. I've seen him cry at adverts.

Oh yes, he cries a lot more than I do.

Birth of children, deaths, watching films, getting good news.

Yes, a few times in the year following a life altering accident and then when he was suffering from PTSD from said accident and was suicidal.

Once when we briefly split up

Yes but he hated doing it. At the end of a favourite series when the main character died. When we argued and split up, usually afterwards when we talked about getting back together. A lot when his friend died but he tried to hold it back as he hated that feeling, I would actively encourage him to cry about it when he was on the edge, saying he would feel better if he let it out, but the lump in his throat stopped him and I think he felt that if he started he might never stop.

Yes because he doesn't have the emotional range of a bath sponge.

Once, we lost our triplets at 18 weeks. Only time I've ever seen him cry in 16 years.