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She wanted to show everyone how much weight I gained.

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Toobusybee · 01/07/2023 07:01

I recently connected with an old friend, we kept in touch on social media but hadn’t seen each other in around 4 years. In that time I’ve had a baby and went on anti depressants that caused a lot of weight gain. I am overweight right now and feel so uncomfortable. I’m probably around 2-3 stone heavier than she last saw me.

She kind of gestured when I saw her that I gained weight, something like wow you’re curvy, I laughed it off and mentioned the medication I was on. We had a really nice time and she messaged to say her friends wanted to come along to our next meeting which I thought was a bit strange as they are more really her friends we arranged it but then could not make the date we agreed on.

Last night I was out for dinner with a mutual friend she said I am glad you didn’t meet up with them as friend number 1 said everyone needs to see how different I am with weight on.

I feel really sad and like a freak show, i’m now off the medication and I hate seeing myself look like this. I don’t even want to confront my friend, I feel like i’m back at school with the mean girls

OP posts:
missingeu · 01/07/2023 10:43

Focus on the postive, kind people in your life and ignore her, She's feeding of your insecurites to make herself feel better.

Move on, I did. My oldest friend was obessed with my weight and making negative comments. Our last meet up was 2 years ago - I don't miss her, or the way she made me feel. I regret spending time trying to be the image she wanted me to be. When I look back at our friendship she was jealous of me and the life I have and picked on the one thing I was insecure about - my weight to make her feel better.

Jazzyjezzabelle · 01/07/2023 10:45

Are you sure the mutual friend was being honest? I can’t see why she’d want folks who aren’t really your friends to see you a couple of stone heavier, that sounds like someone shit stirring to me.

WaltzingWaters · 01/07/2023 10:46

She sounds horrible and someone you should keep out of your life. doesn’t sound like she’ll bring anything positive to your life.

Soozikinzii · 01/07/2023 10:55

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there . Also, it sounds like you were a real stunner at school if she wanted to score points like that . If she genuinely wants to keep in touch, she will do. Not just arrange weird meet-ups with randomers .

2Noope · 01/02/2024 21:18

I’d like to say well done on your recovery from a really difficult time. I am sorry this ‘friend’ turned out to be a terrible human.

coxesorangepippin · 01/02/2024 21:19

What a cunt says it all

These people!

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