She wanted to show everyone how much weight I gained.

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I recently connected with an old friend, we kept in touch on social media but hadn’t seen each other in around 4 years. In that time I’ve had a baby and went on anti depressants that caused a lot of weight gain. I am overweight right now and feel so uncomfortable. I’m probably around 2-3 stone heavier than she last saw me.

She kind of gestured when I saw her that I gained weight, something like wow you’re curvy, I laughed it off and mentioned the medication I was on. We had a really nice time and she messaged to say her friends wanted to come along to our next meeting which I thought was a bit strange as they are more really her friends we arranged it but then could not make the date we agreed on.

Last night I was out for dinner with a mutual friend she said I am glad you didn’t meet up with them as friend number 1 said everyone needs to see how different I am with weight on.

I feel really sad and like a freak show, i’m now off the medication and I hate seeing myself look like this. I don’t even want to confront my friend, I feel like i’m back at school with the mean girls

She sounds a right cow. Take care of yourself op x

Delete her
off your phone and social media

you will get better in time

she’s just a nasty cunt

fuck her

A true friend would be very understanding of your circumstances.

A envious 'friend" would take great delight in your circumstances.

She's shown her true colours OP... don't let her affect your self esteem.... she's not a nice person.

Just what I was thinking.

Awful. My in-laws are like this. She's obviously jealous of you.

Wow. Block. That's really disturbing behaviour!!

Horrible and nasty woman..she should be no friend of yours. You don't need to justify yourself to anyone, especially low life like her.

Totally agree with this

Well OP, I can promise you that anyone she told about your weight gain will have walked away thinking what a bitch she is, and not about your weight!

She isn't a friend, she's a horrible bitch. Dump her, get some nicer people to be friends with, and learn to like yourself.

Cut her from your life. Absolutely awful person.

I am so so sorry. She sounds like an absoloute bitch and someone you should have left in the past. I wouldn't speak to her again.
It does sound like she wanted to be nasty with meeting with her friends and thank goodness for the other friend that told you.
I cannot stand bitchy pieces of shit like this, honestly they give women such a bad name.

I gained 30kg on medication albeit I was too underweight before so I carried it OK but it got me down a lot.
Id start by making some small changes, switch to lighter spreads, sugar free drinks, cook with frylite that kinda thing. Pay attention to portion sizes.
Your body will take a but of time to get it's metabolism back so it's not going to be overnight and honestly slow and steady wins the race. I've lost half of the weight I put on just by the above and doing a bit more walking.

Please look after yourself xx

Thats horrible of her, I'm so sorry. I'd be hurt too. Basically they just wanted to look at you, and talk about you afterwards. If it were me I'd use this as an opportunity, to calorie count and go for an hours walk every day. Imagine her face drop when she sees you've lost the weight. You can do this.

You could let her know you know. “I hear by missing the other night, you missed the opportunity to show everyone how much weight I put on, but went for the second-best option and told everyone about it instead. How hurtful”

Ghosting is stupid behaviour and open to misinterpretation. Make it clear.

I understand.. I've put on loads of weight.. I feel really shit about myself ( and then comfort eat 🤦‍♀️) I actively avoid seeing old friends as I feel they would be shocked by what I look like like. I also went grey very early and cant afford to keep it coloured. It undermines everything I do. If someone did what your friend did it would completely rock my fragile confidence to the core

How awful

God get this person out of your life. How bloody rude

I used to have a friend from school who would absolutely do/say something like this, I cut her out long time ago as did not trust her one bit. She tried to add me on Instagram a while back and I declined as could imagine her looking at my pictures and making snide/judgy comments, this girl was actually one of the prettiest girls in our year but deep down very insecure and I think that was the root of how mean she was about others, she just wanted to make herself feel better clearly. Maybe your "friend" is a bit like that but in any case don't waste your time with someone like that as you'll never really be able to trust them.

I really empathise with your post as I gained a lot of weight after a traumatic accident and some people I thought were friends were so mean about it behind my back, it's a horrible feeling but just forget them and do whatever you need to do for yourself to feel happy and confident, when it comes to your body the only opinion that matters is yours 💐

She’s not your friend. It’s okay to leave nasty people behind.

She’s still jealous of you and trying to bring you down. Don’t let her. I can’t stand superficial people like this. It’s what’s inside that counts. Find nice friends who value and appreciate you regardless of your appearance during the different and stages of life.

She is a bitch and take no notice whatsoever of her. I would also never see her again and tell her why!

I’d have made my excuses and left, and subsequently ignored, after she felt the need to comment “curvy” when first meeting to be honest. Fuck that.

She sounds insecure and a bitch

I hope you haven’t come off the medication because of this: have you spoken to the dr or taken some advice on how to manage coming off?

I agree with the previous poster who said that women who fixate on weight are boring - I have a friend that is obsessed with how much people weigh and talks about it a lot however she has failed to realise that no one else gives a fuck. She is obsessed.

She sounds horrible. Perfect time to use ghosting! Just ignore her from now on.