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Photos of colleague in bikini

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SomethinFishy · 30/06/2023 22:09

My husband went away with work for a few weeks a while ago. He backed up his photos to my drive recently and when I was looking for something else I saw a photo he had taken of his female colleague in a bikini on the beach. Not a group shot, just her posing for the photo. He, and we, were going through a difficult patch when this happened. Would you be suspicious? Or is this normal behaviour if you are away together for a few weeks at a location with a beach?

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MsDogLady · 01/07/2023 23:28

He, and we, were going through a difficult patch when this happened.

@SomethinFishy, how was your H behaving during the rough patch? Was he creating distance between you?

I would absolutely address his taking and saving this colleague’s revealing photo. This would be crossing a big line in my relationship. And of course it’s dodgy that he suddenly deleted it after realizing that you were working in the pictures.

Do you know if they message outside of work?

I hope you can get to the bottom of this, @SomethinFishy.

ConcernedSchoolStaff · 05/09/2023 10:14

The deleting of the message may be just that he'd forgotten it was on there, realised it wasn't good to keep it and so rightly deleted it. I think he is innocent, certainly without any further evidence.

WunWun · 05/09/2023 10:22

ConcernedSchoolStaff · 05/09/2023 10:14

The deleting of the message may be just that he'd forgotten it was on there, realised it wasn't good to keep it and so rightly deleted it. I think he is innocent, certainly without any further evidence.

Are you the husband? Why else would you bump a dead thread to post that?

Loubelle70 · 05/09/2023 10:25

I agree, send it to her, then delete it...i wouldn't be happy, at all.

Aikko · 05/09/2023 11:25

If it was completely innocent, he would have deleted the photo straight away after forwarding it back to her, to avoid this very situation.

The fact is, he kept a backup on his phone to wank off to, and only deleted it when you found out.

He is pouring a lot of lustful energy towards this women, which as you say - just so happens to coincide with you two going through a bad patch.

Loubelle70 · 05/09/2023 11:51

Straight up answer..i like that. I thought wanking material but i think OP probably suspects that.

onanotherday · 05/09/2023 12:36

💐OP, I wonder how sure you are that this was "work" and not a holiday away with OW? Was it a place that work have been before?

The script before going ...and the deleted photo doesn't look great tbh.

Time for a talk...expect to be called paranoid etc....ducks in a row time.

retinolalcohol · 05/09/2023 13:10

Honestly I don't think you can rule out that he took the photo at her request, forwarded it and then forgot.

I say this because it's something I'd do. I have pictures/screenshots of all sorts of stuff in my camera roll, some of which may be linked to exes from years ago - just because I'm not really preoccupied with what's in my camera roll. I've never been doing anything sneakily so I would never think 'must go delete this immediately'. If my partner went through my phone he probably would find something to be pissed off about, but I am hand on heart innocent. Innocent & lazy Grin

wasahoarder · 05/09/2023 14:32

Yes exactly "ooh Dave, you've got the new iPhone 18+ pro could you take a photo and forward it to me? I want to send a nice one onto XYZ"

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