@perfectcolourfound has nailed it.
This:
“Please get away from this man.
He thinks you exist to service him, to run around after him, to be a domestic appliance, a parent, to look nice and perform 'wifely' duties. He thinks you should be grateful he exists, grateful he goes to work, and that he shouldn't have to do any more than that.
There is no logic or reason to his beliefs. Why on earth does he think you should do more than him? Why does a grown man not make his own packed lunch? Why does he think you should be grateful him simply being there, when he isn't grateful for all you do for him and the children and home?
Being a partnership is just that - you share the load, equally. You both parent. You both look after the home and garden. OK, if one of you does less paid work, you do more of the home / parenting, but at the end of the day you both get the same amount of downtime, the same opportunities to relax or go out and have fun.
Him cutting the grass isn't helping you, because it's his grass as much as it's yours.
He is selfish and lazy, and he doesn't want to pull his weight. So his objective is to punish you for havng perfectly reasonable opinions and making perfectly reasons requests for him to pull his weight (you shouldn't have to ask by the way, you aren't his mum). He hopes that by arguing and getting aggressive and generally punishing you, you will stop argueing with him and take on all the work. And thus he gets the selfish, lazy life he wants.
No decent man would defent their mother being rude to you.
No decent man would expect you to pick up after them and do more than them to keep the home / family going.
No decent man would expect you to be grateful they exist.
No decent man would say noone else would have you.
He isn't a decent man. You would be so much happier away from him.”
This man is awful and he is abusive. Do you want your children to grow up thinking this is how men should treat women? Because that’s what they’re learning.