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Those of you that are happily single (fwb?)

43 replies

MaxwellCat · 26/06/2023 22:30

And intending to stay that way, do you not miss sex? Or do you have a fwb? I'm single and have been for 6 years but I do miss sex (im early 30s) I've been celibate for 6 years. I am not cut out for fwbs so thats not an option for me but I see so many people saying they are happily single and intend to stay that way is that because you are not really bothered about sex or because you have a fwb set up?

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Namechangedforthis2244 · 26/06/2023 22:38

A bit of both.

I love good, life affirming sex which is focused on my pleasure. But in my experience the excitement of tearing someone else’s clothes off dampens somewhat when you realise that you’re the only one picking them up off the floor afterwards.

So, I’m sometimes completely single, sometimes a bit of fwb but definitely no relationship

EBearhug · 26/06/2023 22:39

There's always Ann Summers.

bonfirebash · 26/06/2023 22:40

FWB. With my current one for 3 years on and off
Last one for um, 18 years

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MaxwellCat · 26/06/2023 22:44

I'm weird as I don't like "toys" and don't own any not my thing ...

I'm guessing the majority of those happily single have a fwb set up

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KateJohns · 26/06/2023 22:44

No sex, don't want it, world is so obsessed with sex and I don't get it all.
Grunting and moistness and stupid faces. Bleurgh. 😂

Chopchopbusybusyworkwork · 26/06/2023 22:53

Happily single. FWB situations not for me because to get to the really good sex, I need an emotional connection and trust- I just don’t think I can get to that level of mental intimacy outside a committed long term relationship. I also don’t know if I could find someone sexually attractive knowing that they were actually only wanting a shag. Just not appealing to me at all.

So I have a menagerie of vibrators with male names and decide who I’m going to spend my 10 minutes with when I get the urge (probs about once a week) 😂

Wheredoistart78 · 26/06/2023 23:37

I have a fwb but we have fallen in love with each other and just spent a lovely day together 😊

continentallentil · 26/06/2023 23:40

When I was happily single I had a mix of FWB and flings. I like a fling. If I were celibate I’d be even moodier than I already am, if that were even possible.

Malarandras · 26/06/2023 23:40

I can’t do FWB, it isn’t for me. I miss sex sometimes but less so as time goes on. I don’t want a relationship so I will happily go without sex while that is the case. Everyone is different on this though.

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MaxwellCat · 26/06/2023 23:49

continentallentil · 26/06/2023 23:40

When I was happily single I had a mix of FWB and flings. I like a fling. If I were celibate I’d be even moodier than I already am, if that were even possible.

Oh god yes thats how I feel. I am even starting to find random men attractive that I would have never even looked at before its been so long

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MaxwellCat · 26/06/2023 23:50

Wheredoistart78 · 26/06/2023 23:37

I have a fwb but we have fallen in love with each other and just spent a lovely day together 😊

Ohh thats nice. I've had them in the past when much much younger but it never turned into anything more sadly

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FreyafromLondon · 26/06/2023 23:57

I'm happily single and haven't had sex for 11 years. I'm 43 and don't miss sex at all

egowise · 26/06/2023 23:58

My fwb lives a 5 hour plane ride away. Bliss.

SophiaElise · 26/06/2023 23:59

Sex is overrated.

Mmhmmn · 27/06/2023 00:17

KateJohns · 26/06/2023 22:44

No sex, don't want it, world is so obsessed with sex and I don't get it all.
Grunting and moistness and stupid faces. Bleurgh. 😂

😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

Redglitter · 27/06/2023 00:24

Very successful FWB set up

LordSalem · 27/06/2023 00:40

Just coasting along quite happily. Single for over ten years. A couple of one night stands along the way and one fwb a long time ago. Really not fussed that nothing progressed as I never expected it to. If you're not happy as you are then do look for something.

CatAndHisKit · 27/06/2023 00:53

Not bothered about sex - maybe I've done more than my share when younger (20s / 30s) as I was so into it then (for me it was mostly about having intense flings, I didn't sustain that interest in longer relationships). I had a couple of strong attractions in my 40s but only a couple and lasted maybe a ciyle of month each. Now I'd be onl interested if I fell in love but this time I want an LTR or nothing, def no fwbs!

But tbh I can't imagine being early 30s like you, OP, and not being interested. Is that new or were you never imterested?

CatAndHisKit · 27/06/2023 00:55

*couple of months each

CatAndHisKit · 27/06/2023 00:57

And I mean im my last sentence, you being interested in relationships or at least trying them, rather than sex per se.

scoobydoo1971 · 27/06/2023 01:01

Most men the wrong side of 50 who are single are either terrible in bed, liars, cocklodgers, porn addicts, have ED, say tactless stuff, snore like a wilderbeast, drink too much booze or have already been rejected by other women for various reasons. I just cannot be bothered looking for a 'prize' lothario in that population and don't want a toyboy. Sex is alright, but there are dozens of other things I prefer doing I don't get excited at the prospect of meeting someone new these days, I dislike compliments, I don't feel flattered by men approving of my appearance (which thankfully lessens with age) and I am financially independent. I would hate to live with a man these days, or have one telling me what to do. I am happily accepting single life forever as I just cannot be bothered with all the drama of dating.

sammylady37 · 27/06/2023 06:29

Happily single and intend to remain that way. I have a few different FWB arrangements that work nicely for me.

UseOfWeapons · 27/06/2023 07:05

Single for 15 years. No FWB. Life is full of friends, family, and job, it’d take someone pretty special for me to consider any kind of relationship now. No, I don’t miss sex. Horses for courses, I’d say.

TheAverageJoanne · 27/06/2023 07:12

MaxwellCat · 26/06/2023 22:30

And intending to stay that way, do you not miss sex? Or do you have a fwb? I'm single and have been for 6 years but I do miss sex (im early 30s) I've been celibate for 6 years. I am not cut out for fwbs so thats not an option for me but I see so many people saying they are happily single and intend to stay that way is that because you are not really bothered about sex or because you have a fwb set up?

Don't give a stuff about relationships, and the same goes for sex. Sex never crosses my mind unless I'm presented with it such as on TV, MN, books, media or people talking about it. Several terrible relationships do that to you. I'm not interested anymore.

Seebit · 27/06/2023 08:42

Single through choice. No sex. Don’t miss it at all and was never really that into it.