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MaxwellCat · 2023-06-26T21:30:45+00:00

And intending to stay that way, do you not miss sex? Or do you have a fwb? I'm single and have been for 6 years but I do miss sex (im early 30s) I've been celibate for 6 years. I am not cut out for fwbs so thats not an option for me but I see so many people saying they are happily single and intend to stay that way is that because you are not really bothered about sex or because you have a fwb set up?

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MaxwellCat · 27/06/2023 08:51

CatAndHisKit · 27/06/2023 00:53

Not bothered about sex - maybe I've done more than my share when younger (20s / 30s) as I was so into it then (for me it was mostly about having intense flings, I didn't sustain that interest in longer relationships). I had a couple of strong attractions in my 40s but only a couple and lasted maybe a ciyle of month each. Now I'd be onl interested if I fell in love but this time I want an LTR or nothing, def no fwbs!

But tbh I can't imagine being early 30s like you, OP, and not being interested. Is that new or were you never imterested?

No I am interested but I am a lone parent though so dating is completely impossible in my situation its why I've been single for so long I've seen so many women saying they are happy to be single though so I wondered if that's because they had a fwb set up or just didn't want sex.

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ArcticBells · 27/06/2023 09:54

scoobydoo1971 · 27/06/2023 01:01

Most men the wrong side of 50 who are single are either terrible in bed, liars, cocklodgers, porn addicts, have ED, say tactless stuff, snore like a wilderbeast, drink too much booze or have already been rejected by other women for various reasons. I just cannot be bothered looking for a 'prize' lothario in that population and don't want a toyboy. Sex is alright, but there are dozens of other things I prefer doing I don't get excited at the prospect of meeting someone new these days, I dislike compliments, I don't feel flattered by men approving of my appearance (which thankfully lessens with age) and I am financially independent. I would hate to live with a man these days, or have one telling me what to do. I am happily accepting single life forever as I just cannot be bothered with all the drama of dating.

This 100% !

mondaytosunday · 27/06/2023 15:31

My husband died when I was 47 s been in my own since then. No fwb - couldn't do that. Sure I miss stuff but sex is not what I miss most.

Zanatdy · 27/06/2023 15:35

I was celibate the best part of 10yrs and no I didn’t miss it. Then I started dating an ex colleague and the sex was amazing. Not seeing him at the moment, and God I miss the sex. So I decided I miss good sex! Not the boring mediocre sex I had before I met him!

KnitFastDieWarm · 27/06/2023 15:43

Was single for two years after divorce and had absolutely no intention of any relationships ever again - i loved it! A judicious mix of fwb, flings and self-love made me more than happy.

Then I met my wonderful DP - and he really did have to be wonderful to make me give up single life! I still think of my single time fondly and i doubt i’ll ever live with someone again (am 36)

KarmaLife · 06/02/2024 16:51

Oopa somehow posted in the wrong thread...

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 06/02/2024 16:53

ArcticBells · 27/06/2023 09:54

This 100% !

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Pretty much sums it up, doesn't it? 😅

Hardwig · 06/02/2024 17:12

You need to get a clit sucker toy. I dont like dildos but love clit toys.

Augustus40 · 06/02/2024 17:16

Post menopause most women no longer need sex.

PermanentTemporary · 06/02/2024 17:22

The last time I was single I only managed a year without sex but I was all over the place. Didn't bother with the F, went straight for the B with as many different people as possible. In fact the F was about the last thing I wanted, I had plenty.

I've had patches of being quite happy single with nothing at all going on.

SamW98 · 06/02/2024 17:28

Im very happily single and the only thing I miss about a man is sex. If I met someone that I really clicked with then I would go ahead with a FWB however there’s been no one in the 4 years I’ve been single that I’ve felt that attraction to.

I just can’t do casual sex. I’ve tried to in the past but unless I’ve got a real attraction and connection I just can’t go through with it.

So unless I meet the rarer than a rainbow unicorn man over 50 who floats my boat, it’s me and love honeys finest

SamW98 · 06/02/2024 17:32

scoobydoo1971 · 27/06/2023 01:01

Most men the wrong side of 50 who are single are either terrible in bed, liars, cocklodgers, porn addicts, have ED, say tactless stuff, snore like a wilderbeast, drink too much booze or have already been rejected by other women for various reasons. I just cannot be bothered looking for a 'prize' lothario in that population and don't want a toyboy. Sex is alright, but there are dozens of other things I prefer doing I don't get excited at the prospect of meeting someone new these days, I dislike compliments, I don't feel flattered by men approving of my appearance (which thankfully lessens with age) and I am financially independent. I would hate to live with a man these days, or have one telling me what to do. I am happily accepting single life forever as I just cannot be bothered with all the drama of dating.

Pretty much this. I’ve dated but the men are pretty much all as you described. OLD is full of 50+ sex pests and the ones I’ve met in the wild are either desperate and needy or also sex pests.

GentlemanJay · 06/02/2024 19:02

I've had FWBs. Love the benefits. Love the friends bit too.

I really miss having a spoon or a cuddle. I've a fantastic female friend. I'm like her gay best friend. When we are together over night. We sometimes share a double bed. We have a spoon and I love it.

No intention of spoiling the friendship.

No intention of ever being in a normal relationship again.

WhatShallIdo11 · 06/02/2024 19:10

I’m well past menopause and enjoy sex so much more now - I have a gorgeous FWB - been seeing him for over 3 years - never want to live with a man again - like being single but still have fun - I’m 66, he’s 53 so happy single OAP!

babasaclover · 06/02/2024 19:51

KateJohns · 26/06/2023 22:44

No sex, don't want it, world is so obsessed with sex and I don't get it all.
Grunting and moistness and stupid faces. Bleurgh. 😂

You've got a point it is all pretty gross. Wonderful but also gross

Hummusandstuff · 06/02/2024 20:02

@scoobydoo1971 what she said.
Also 50s and very happy on my own.
I did have a thing with a younger guy and it was great fun. Got something out of my system to have great sex for a while but at the same time it was so efforty 😁

A friend my age has met someone and they’re getting married. My first thought was ‘why?’. I am absolutely happy for them and I am not anti-men but it made me realise I just don’t want one in my life let alone my lovely home.

Post 50 and kids grown up I think a lot of us would be happier doing our own thing. Men too.

Sweden99 · 06/02/2024 20:11

I had several years of multiple Fwb and they are to this day some of the best relationships I have ever had. It was not until then I really saw the opposite sex offer kindness and empathy. It truely raised my expectations for relationships and what was possible.

InAPickle12345 · 06/02/2024 20:54

I'm mid 30s and single as well OP, one DC but he does share his time between me and his dad's house so our situations are different. And I honestly admire the work and commitment of lone parents, it's got to be so tough.

Single 10years and while I've had flings and some longer flings, some FWB and ONS it always comes down to me ending things because I'm happy on my own and don't want to deal with whatever issue this guy was bringing to my door. I'm so much happier on my own day to day.

It's the sex I miss about a partner, everything else I can provide myself 😂 (if someone took over my car maintenance and recycling responsibilities I wouldn't argue too much though 😂).

I do enjoy toys, and you could explore that maybe, there's loads of choices these days and they definitely fill a gap (pun intended 😂).