I have name changed for this.
DH and I have struggled a bit recently. He can really tantrum when we fall out and do things like bang stuff, slam drawers etc and throw things on the floor etc.
this afternoon we had a ( what I think) mild disagreement.
I was busy getting stuff done before I had to go to work, the house is so busy this time of day and tbh I can’t leave things for him to do as he doesn’t do them and then I have to do it all late when I get home.
I was in the middle of doing something when he stood next to me and said no and stopped me doing what I was doing, I said ‘just a min’ and finished it (5 secs) he whinged and got moody and when I turned to him, he said he needed a hug. I gave him a hug and said, I will always give you time if you just give me a sec to finish what I am doing.
He then raised his voice and said ‘well couldn’t you have stopped that and given me your attention’
I admit I got defensive and said, I was in the middle of this and you could see I had almost finished, you could have waited the few seconds.
He started banging stuff around the house, slamming drawers In the kitchen and threw his food in the bin.
the kids were looking at me so I shouted in, can you please stop banging stuff and before I could settle the kids and go talk to him, he came over to me, slammed his wedding ring down and said ‘I think this should be reconsidered, don’t you?’ And stormed out of the room.
I was so shocked that I started laughing. I didn’t mean to but it completely floored me and it just came out ( like that weird laugh/cry type thing).
he has had tantrums like this before but never to this extent. I have no idea what I am going to do.
we have occasionally had an arguement but not that often. I put the ring on the bookshelf and went back to the kids.
he then came back over and said ‘oh, I won’t be putting that in a safe place then will I?’.
I explained it was on the bookshelf, grabbed my stuff, kissed the kids by and left.
im still stunned.