Have you ever ended a friendship?

[Trainsplanesandfeet]

And if so why?

Have you ever been the friend who this was done to and how did you feel/did you think it was a reasonable response by the person who ended contact with you?

I need to create some boundaries for myself around friendships that are only one way/not bringing me joy but I feel so guilty about it.

@unknownuser1 that sounds so hard to bear. Hope you are okay now.

I’ve just ended two recently or been dumped I don’t really know. First one probably as I am no longer of use to this person. We were all part of a larger group but over the years the group has fizzled out. Myself and this friend used to do mutual favours for each other me doing a lot more for her than she did for me. She only ever contacted me when she wanted a favour doing, then this year she asked and I couldn’t do it. She was quite rude about it and hasn’t spoken to me since!

friend 2 again a bit of a user only contacted me when she wanted something or to brag about her DCs latest achievements. I sent her DC a birthday present never got a thank you, a week later it was my DCs birthday never even got a happy birthday (not looking for a reciprocal present that’s not how it works) but a happy birthday would be nice.

I’ve had friendships that have mutually fizzled out on their own but I’ve realised that I’m the one who has always done the “chasing” in friendships apart from probably my best friend. I’ve always given more in terms of time, offers of help, arranging get together an and I think I’ve reached an age where I can’t be bothered. I’d rather have no friends than friends with users. Sad but true.

I feel like you Astrid its all one sided efforts. I met a few mams last week was nice but find otherwise nobody commits now or keeps contact. Sigh. I give up lol

My ex best friend was cheating on her husband with several other people (male and female) and I found out she was saying she was with me when she wasnt. I told her several times not to involve me and how upset I was with her doing this to her husband but she took no notice so I wrote her out of my life. I am still friends with her husband, they are now divorced and I had to admit to him that I knew what had been going on and this is the reason we no longer speak. He understands I was in a difficult position and respects why I didnt tell him and also why I walked away from her.