I've been seeing someone for a while now, a little over a year. We've had a few bumps in the road with his ex and him being what I thought was a heavy drinker. However, it turns out it's not actually alcohol.
He has a small circle of married friends that are rather upper class in many ways, big houses, posh cars etc. They enjoy massive binges of cocaine of a weekend, this is not for me and so I don't spend time with them. It has come to my attention that the man I'm seeing likes to indulge also, I have an issue with this as I have lost a couple of family members to drug ODs. I am aware however, that he is an adult and doesn't need my approval. This knowledge has impacted on the way I see our future together though, I won't deny it.
He has a male friend whom he spends a lot of time with. He is single and is rather immature for his age. He is about 10 years younger than my significant other, and when together I now understand it's not just drinking that goes on. They spend nights alone together in my OHs flat, having sessions all night and he leaves early morning.
A few weeks ago one evening, before I knew about most of this, I hadn't heard off him for around 7 hours. This is unusual but I didn't bother to seek attention. I text him before bed, he read it but didn't respond. The next morning there was still no response until he arrived at work. Something in my head said that this was odd. I asked if everything was ok and he said he'd been to said man's house the night before, his flat mate was away and he'd bought him a Chinese. He said his battery had died, and he didn't bother messaging back later because it was late.
Fast forward to this weekend. OH was in work, I'd stayed over and was tidying a little before I left as I always do. In a cupboard I came across empty cocaine bags, a card belonging to said friend and underneath all this was a pack of viagra pills that had been opened. Admittedly I did freak out, rang him and he said that he'd used the viagra with me earlier this year. It's not something he ever needs with me, so this doesn't seem plausible.
I have been left feeling like something is going on somewhere, and he doesn't want me to know. This man has shown up in local places when we've been out together, alone and joined us for drinks. He's always made an massive effort to be friendly with me, probably overly now I think about it. They also message frequently on Snapchat.
I'm aware this relationship isn't right for me, and am currently ending things, but I cannot for the life of me stop thinking that maybe there is more to this friendship that meets the eye. I did ask in a message if something was going on and he didn't respond. It all sounds crazy I know. Does anyone else think there could be more than friendship between them?