Just that really. He lives in my area. He's bought a house here. He works here. He's about an hour away from his family and friends where he grew up. He had a ten-year relationship which finished around four years ago. She's since moved on and has a baby. I know he was upset when that relationship ended. He's had a one-year relationship since then and a series of flings. And then me. It's been about 8 months with me.
He hasn't told anyone in his family about me.
He's met my friends and more recently my DD.
It's as if he has two separate lives.
I have the key to his house. I leave my stuff there. We talk a lot on the phone/text and see each other a lot.
But he also goes home every couple of weeks to see his parents and his sister and her family. And his mates. They never come here.
I've asked him about it and his excuses have been: "I've been hurt", "I can't introduce my parents to another girlfriend yet because I've done it too many times", "I want to do things slowly and properly with you". We've talked about it a couple of times, but there doesn't seem to be a change.
I said the other day that we should just drop it if he's not up for investing. I can't be arsed with a "situationship" at my age... and it just makes me feel like he's somehow embarrassed about me or something.
We get on well. My friends say I should just see how things go and to stop stressing about it and enjoy it for what it is, but I'm not very good at that. I like to know someone is fully "into" me. He says he adores me. But why wouldn't he want to tell people about me?