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Husband a cheat I knew it!

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Myusername4321 · 17/06/2023 08:40

Didn't know where to post my head in spinning feel all weak.

My husband works away in a foreign country at the minute, he's been gone 6 weeks. He has worked all over the world and when ever he was away always said he missed us (me and 2dcs) how much he can't wait to get home. This time was different and I just knew. When he last came home he was sketchy with his phone and distant.

Any way role on 6am this morning he sends me a photo of him in the lift kissing some women. Obviously pissed up! I don't know if this was an accident or an attempt to tell me. He deleted it quickly but it was too late..I bombarded him with text but no reply. There is a time difference there so would of been about 2 in the morning there. He's due in a work at 6 but he hasn't answered.

Honestly I can't believe it I feel numb and shaky. I lost my mam 3 month ago he held me breaking my heart knowing what he was. We are due to down size in a few weeks to a better area closer to family and kids friends/schools. We will get about 60k from that.

But what do I do now. I mean obviously it's over he makes me feel sick. I'm thinking money wise do we move and I get him to pay the mortgage. I work part time 18 hours on a low wage he is a high earner but does his taxes slight dodgey so I'm worried about getting money. I don't think he will do his children wrong though.

I can't believe this is happening we have always had a good marriage still young 32 I'm a good looking women keep myslelf fit. Beofre this is I thought he was my sole mate. Then on top of loosing my Mam...I really need to find some inner strength and advice . Especially on the money front!

Sorry if I rambles my heart it going like the clappers 😢

OP posts:
MrsMorrisey · 20/06/2023 12:34

thecatsmeows · 20/06/2023 11:55

Just wanted to add that my father never stopped being unfaithful...in fact my mother ended up being one of the first people in the UK to be tested for Aids back in the 80s, as he was shagging prostitutes in a part of the world where it first became a serious problem.

Bloody hell!! That's awful. Flowers

rockingbird · 20/06/2023 12:54

thecatsmeows · 20/06/2023 11:55

Just wanted to add that my father never stopped being unfaithful...in fact my mother ended up being one of the first people in the UK to be tested for Aids back in the 80s, as he was shagging prostitutes in a part of the world where it first became a serious problem.

Absolutely shocking! What an awful man.
Interestingly my own H's father did the same.. 30 years of working overseas dragging the children along to quite dangerous countries (back then).. he eventually left my H's mother high and dry and the house was repossessed from underneath her due to his poor business dealings! Now he lives the other side of the world.. run off with yet another woman.. who later turfed him out. Useless barstard of a man with no empathy for the pain he's caused. Surprise surprise here I am - learned behaviour 🤦‍♀️

thecatsmeows · 20/06/2023 13:50

@rockingbird I'm sorry to hear you went through it too - all the money in the world can't make up for such a stressful childhood. Both my parents are raging narcissists who shouldn't have had children in the first place (in fact my father never wanted any, I'm only here because my mother is Catholic!).

My mother can't understand why neither myself or my two brothers have had children of our own. Zero self insight or awareness.

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