Husband happy 11 weeks after spilt

[Kindheartedperson]

Hi everyone just need a bit of a kick up the arse today, so my darling husband pack up and left 11 weeks ago. while I was at a meeting for our son, who has autism’ so the meeting was about trying to get him into a Sen school and when I got back from the school run later that day I found out he had moved out ! When I got home I phoned him to be told yes I have moved out and am not coming back. He has never bothered his arse since to see our son and blocked my on everything. My friend sent me a screen shot of his whats app status and he had put on “never been happier “ wish I could say I feel the same I struggle to get my arse out of bed everyday but as a mam I have too.

Your friend is a bitch. Why on earth would you need to see that?

I'm so sorry @Kindheartedperson. What a shot your ex is. Have you started Divorce proceedings yet?

With friends like that, who needs enemies?

And as for your husband, what a lowlife.

You deserve much better.

I don't think you need a kick up the arse, I think you need a shedload of sympathy and care. Are you getting any support?

Maybe it’s good your friend sent you that, OP? You need hard proof of what a shit he is if he tries to wheedle his way back into your life later.

Really happy people don't post stupid public statements like that.

Your ex didn't deserve you by the sound of it.

Keep the screens as evidence for court.

I think that message was designed for you to see it/hear of it ti hurt you.
I would file for divorce and only communicate through lawyers.
You are well shot, decent men don’t behave like that.

How awful for you I'm so sorry. I agree with pp you don't need a kick up the arse you need to look after yourself and be kind to yourself. I hope you have people around to support you. What a wimp your ex is!

Hi everyone thanks for your replies, not gonna lie they made me 😭. No don’t have much support to be honest people I thought would have my back and support me have shown they couldn’t give a shit. I was working full time and now am down to part time my manger and work colleagues have been amazing ! I haven’t started and divorce proceedings as of yet to be honest a haven’t really thought that far a head. It just feels like that last 11 weeks it’s Been shit after shit out little boy is really struggling keeps asking for daddy of the year, i just say he is working away to make lots penny’s for you.

@GCalltheway ahhh definitely couldn’t agree with you more when I’m having good days and feel great I don’t go and plaster it all over my social media it just feels great to wake up and not feel sad , am a great believer in karma and i will see my day with the arsehole xx

Your “d”H sounds like a grade A cunt. I don’t think you need a kick up the arse. I think you need to be super kind to yourself.

And I think you can safely start moving away emotionally from the 'friend' who apparently enjoys stoking drama at your expense. I would never do that to a friend in your situation. They do not have your back, OP

Evidence of what???

If he ever comes back and tries to take the child.

I'm sorry op. That sounds so painful and horrible.
Obviously you know you're well shot but thst doesn't help with how you're feeling right now.
Glad your manager and colleagues have been helpful and understanding.
I can't believe he's not been in touch with his son. What a piece of shit.
What about his parents? Have they been in touch at all?
It's an awful thing to go through. What you're feeling is normal, unfortunately.
It will slowly get easier.
Try to see a divorce solicitor (female preferably) as soon as you're up to it.
And apply for child maintenance.

What a thunder cunt, sounds just like my ex. As someone else has said happy people dont broadcast they are happy.
It will get easier for you, your little one may stuggle were a year and half down the line and my little lad crys most days for his dad and he sees him once a week. Chin up, you got this. You've had a lucky escape love!

Is he in a relationship with the friend who sent the message then?
Sorry he's been such a shit

@Morewineplease10 his parents have passed away, a think that’s what hurts the most is how he can just cut us off and stop giving a shit but putting photos of him self and our son on his social media trying to make him self the victim.@InsomniacVampire ohhh he hasn’t got the balls to do that haha, i was the one that paid all the bills and his sometimes while working full time, while he just done what he wanted. I would finish work at 9pm come home to a house like a tip him a sleep and I would kick off about it and his reply would be “well there not my fucking dishes” ! He 51 there is a 16 year age gap between us and he very childish for his age.

@doozledog ahhh big hugs hun it’s awful when all you want to do is take the pain away from our babies. @TheLurpackYears no a think it’s his ex who he was with years ago, a think she the one he being saying although when he left he said theee was no one eles haha yeah right, and I’m a millionaire.

That’s a shocker.

It bothers you that he's happy?
Work on making yourself happy, stop putting your focus on him.

What sort of a failure of a man walks out on his wife and young child, blocks them on all communication, refuses to see his child, and boasts about having ‘never been happier’?!

Sure, but give the woman time. It’s not even been three months and the total cunt just walked out without a work, blocked her and has refused to see their child, since.

He’s clearly a twat, OP. It hurts like hell now but honestly you’re well rid. Good luck getting your son into a special school. Tailored education and the specialised environment can make all the difference for autistic children.