Porn suddenly accessible on our broadband.

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Before I accuse my DH, just looking for some knowledgeable advice.

Should porn content be automatically blocked on our home Wi-Fi broadband? We are with EE. Previously it did not show up, but just checked, and suddenly you can access porn again.

DH has had previously looked at porn and it has caused rows.

Modem info also shows what devices are connected, which can be handy if you suspect there may be a few secret devices knocking about.

"It doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home."

Re enable the adult content lock if your worried.
There are other reasons you might have to remove the lock apart from porn however!
Eg, I couldnt get onto websites selling Vape supplies and theres probably others, some video streaming services were also blocked, 18 age rated films and movies - not just porn.

It's more effective to know yourself he is lying. You won't "win" by confronting him - either he'll find a more convincing lie, so you'll be back to step 1, or he'll turn it onto you somehow (e.g. you treat him like a child so he has no choice but to go round your it's not normal, you are controlling blah blah blah)

Write it down somewhere and use it as evidence to keep you strong if/when you feel ready to leave.

What a grim of excusing someone trampling all over their partners boundaries.

I would say it does matter to OP and to many many other people.

*grim way

When you change the settings on our sky broadband, you do get an email. So, if it is the same as ours, your DH will have had an email saying 'you have changed the broadband settings to 18'

As others have said- you can add in 'allowed' sites. For example- weirdly, the broadband was blocking a GCSE revision site the school wanted my child to use. So I went in, added the address and 'allowed' it.

This is really helpful, thanks.

When I go to security, I can see a checkbox to search for attempted access to blocked sites, but when I then go refresh, it unticks it, and won’t search for that specific bit

what does that mean?

OP

It is exactly as a PP says, he will either lie about it to your face (oh, I turned it off to watch an 18 film or whatever r) or find a way to make it your fault. Catching him out won’t stop that.

Once you've ticked it, you need to save the settings and then from then on it will include those in the logs automatically. I'm not sure mine has a search option there, just an option to include those in the logs or not

Sorry when you've ticked the box, click the apply button lower down the page

Thanks. Just looked, and there’s no save settings on mine. Maybe because I’m on my phone? There’s ‘apply’ at the bottom, but it just goes to a page saying safari cannot open the page because the network connection was lost.

Annoying.

Maybe its because on a mobile. try and look on a pc if you can and it should allow you to apply the changes.

This is bullshit.

You should have respect for the person you have chosen to marry. Porn isn’t something women should have to just put up with if it causes them hurt and impacts on their relationship.

Women are not ‘food’ to please a mans appetite and we should be grateful he just looked and didn’t eat.

Talk about objectifying.

*shouldn’t

Thanks, Bookworm, I’ll try to find my laptop. Appreciate your help.

We are with sky, joined them just before Christmas. It wasn't blocked when we joined, but we blocked it ourselves by logging in and banning it.

To avoid an argument, could you say "I noticed the porn is unblocked, I need to contact sky to find out why it's happened as it's quite worrying."

Sorry you're in this situation, I hope you get out of it x

Which is why I said if it causes them pain or impacts on their relationship

These are my boundaries, and yours are yours. If it doesn’t impact your relationship, crack on.

Op you can only have discovered this by searching for porn yourself. Why were you doing this? I'm assuming that it wasn't for sexual gratification judging by this thread so it could only have been to catch your husband out.

This strikes me as an extremely unhealthy relationship dynamic for both you.

I don't watch porn but I did have to allow adult content because I couldn't see some content on the internet which was really infuriating.

Good point!

I don't think you will get a definitive answer. You clearly don't trust him. You won't get concrete proof unless you catch him watching porn so don't torture yourself.

Seriously. If this is what you are spending your time doing - checking the wifi settings for porn - something is really wrong with the relationship.

You don’t need a prove of anything if you are not happy.
How is the actual relationship outside your wifi settings? Do you have good time together? Do you laugh together? Do you have sex? You know - the actually important parts of any relationship