MIL calling

[Mmhmmn]

How often does your MIL call?
DP (of 20 yrs) mother is on the phone every night. I don't get involved personally as don't like the intrusion and needy/possessive/controlling aspects of her behaviour, but as soon as she rings he jumps up and practically runs into other rooms. Always has. I've mentioned it in the past and he's stopped it for a time but always reverts to this. And I'm not really into dictating or controlling others' behaviour. She's like a third person in the relationship (or more like first or second, me being the third!) So over it.

My MIL calls DP each day. Usually a short phone call but she lives alone and I don't see an issue with it. I'd hope my children would be happy to speak to me daily in the future too. Sometimes I take the call myself but it's usually DP.

@Mmhmmn

"YES. But neither will. 3 times a week is more civilised"

I'm surprised by this. How often do you speak to your own family? I'm in a family group chat, and a separate one with my sisters. We speak daily. DP has daily phone calls with his mum who is older and doesn't use WhatsApp etc.

I see no issue with it.

I'd also hate to think that one day in the future my DC's partners might resent the good relationship I have with DC and would expect them to ration their contact with me.

Totally agree. It seems on Mumsnet MILs are the devil and everything they do is antagonistic. Lots of people have great relationships with their parents and speak to them daily. Perhaps OP doesn't have this dynamic within her own family.

I speak to my mum daily and always pause the tv if its on. Is it different for Mil, I don't have one, would love to have met her but she died when my husband was 8.