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DH phone question

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GreenCath · 07/06/2023 09:47

I need some advise about the FindMy app. The minute DH gets home his location stops, i.e. if he gets home at 6pm then his location is recorded as home address at 6pm even if me or adult DC check his location later in the evening.

His location is visible at all times during the day when he is out or at work. It just seems to stop broadcasting when he arrives home for the entire evening, then will be visible again at home the next morning.

He knows that we all have FindMy as a family but I haven't mentioned this issue to him. I've been trying to work out why this would be happening. The only thing I can think of is that he is turning off location services when he gets home and I'm confused and concerned if that is the case why he would be doing that. Can it happen automatically?

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Bearpawk · 07/06/2023 09:48

Could he be setting it to only share location when he's away from home, as logically you know where he is when he's at home and he's not going to get lost ?

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GreenCath · 07/06/2023 09:55

I didn't know you could do this but I don't think so because it does share his location 'live' when he's at home in the morning.

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teadi · 07/06/2023 09:56

I'd understand why you'd be concerned if it's the other way around. However, it sounds like you're worried about him lying about being at home when you know he's at home?!

The whole family tracking thing confuses me. It seems a bit stalkerish to me when it comes to adults. Surely you can just as quickly text/call to ask someone if they're home etc?

skippy67 · 07/06/2023 09:57

Why not just ask him?

AnonKat · 07/06/2023 09:58

I hate these tracking things, it sounds controlling and stalkerish.

Just go ask him? I mean it's not like he is hiding where he is, he is at home?

skippy67 · 07/06/2023 09:59

AnonKat · 07/06/2023 09:58

I hate these tracking things, it sounds controlling and stalkerish.

Just go ask him? I mean it's not like he is hiding where he is, he is at home?

Exactly.

bibbityboppityboo · 07/06/2023 10:01

Has he got your home set as his home location on the app? My phone stops refreshing / searching when me and my items in find my are at home, or near my phone. If I then go outside or go away from any of my linked items (like headphones or something) then it starts to refresh and tell me where things are!

It's like if I'm home and all of my linked items are it knows and doesn't bother refreshing because it knows everything is together and only when things are on different networks (e.g phone on 4G and headphones home on the Wi-Fi) will it start to update?

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GreenCath · 07/06/2023 10:01

Yes @teadi I'm worried because it doesn't make sense does it.

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TheInterceptor · 07/06/2023 10:03

I turn location off when I get home because it saves the battery.

Shoxfordian · 07/06/2023 10:04

Why do you need a phone app to tell you he’s at home when you can presumably see him in your house?

skippy67 · 07/06/2023 10:05

GreenCath · 07/06/2023 10:01

Yes @teadi I'm worried because it doesn't make sense does it.

What doesn't make sense is you wanting an app to confirm he's at home, when you know he's at home!

TheOwlChronicles · 07/06/2023 10:07

Are you concerned he's turning it off when at home so he's not able to be tracked by someone else?

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GreenCath · 07/06/2023 10:08

So it's freezing the location, I'm just googling that now.

To answer, it's not that I need an app to tell me he is at home if I am there. It's because he wasn't showing when DC checked his location (when he was at home) that this issue was raised at all. Normally none of us really use it.

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GreenCath · 07/06/2023 10:09

TheOwlChronicles · 07/06/2023 10:07

Are you concerned he's turning it off when at home so he's not able to be tracked by someone else?

That's a logical conclusion.

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rwalker · 07/06/2023 10:11

I’d be turning it off full stop and running for the hills
this level of surveillance is unhealthy

YoSof · 07/06/2023 10:19

GreenCath · 07/06/2023 10:09

That's a logical conclusion.

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That is the least logical conclusion out of every other possibility that has been offered.

Tiredmum100 · 07/06/2023 10:37

Do you have any suspicions OP that he's doing it for reasons that are mean he's up to no good? If not I would assume, he's either set it like as he's home, or it's a glitch.

Mari9999 · 07/06/2023 10:51

@GreenCath

In your husband 's place, I would find all of you overly concerned about his coming and going. I would inform you all to give me a call if you need to reach me, but I would no longer give any of you access to my movements. I would completely disable the tracking device. Who needs to be stalled by their own family?

I would tell all of you to get your Sherlock jollies by stalking someone else. I would work on the assumption that anything that you need to know about my whereabouts, you can call me to ask.

skippy67 · 07/06/2023 11:10

GreenCath · 07/06/2023 10:09

That's a logical conclusion.

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It so isn't.

brunettemic · 07/06/2023 11:20

The only logical MN conclusion is he’s having an affair but doing it at home…in all seriousness just ask him and sat DC wanted to check if you were home and couldn’t. Although presumably they could have just phoned or messaged him…

Frith2013 · 07/06/2023 11:36

I don't think it's healthy to track the movements of other people.

Have you been suspicious previously?

Neverinamonthofsundays · 07/06/2023 11:42

Only very weird and insecure people need to track their other halves. I find it creepy when I read about it.

gardenweed · 07/06/2023 11:43

Could he be switching devices on arriving home?

GayPareeee · 07/06/2023 11:53

Surely if it was nefarious he would turn it off BEFORE he was at home, not when he was there - as it would show where his home is?

We have Life 360 and Find My as the kids have an amazing ability to lose both themselves and their phones. They are happy with it (as are DH and I) but understand it's not for everyone.

Life 360 'freezes' at last location so once you're home it shows when you came home and only updates once your location changes, I suspect your DH may have a setting like that for Find My too?

Prettybutdumb · 07/06/2023 12:08

If you have access to his phone his app should say who’s sharing his location, I think.

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