DH phone question

[GreenCath]

I need some advise about the FindMy app. The minute DH gets home his location stops, i.e. if he gets home at 6pm then his location is recorded as home address at 6pm even if me or adult DC check his location later in the evening.

His location is visible at all times during the day when he is out or at work. It just seems to stop broadcasting when he arrives home for the entire evening, then will be visible again at home the next morning.

He knows that we all have FindMy as a family but I haven't mentioned this issue to him. I've been trying to work out why this would be happening. The only thing I can think of is that he is turning off location services when he gets home and I'm confused and concerned if that is the case why he would be doing that. Can it happen automatically?

I do use it regularly. We all do. 4 teens, 2 adults. 2 countries. I work from home. Everyone else is doing an hours commute. It's handy to know where they've got to on their way home. Don't really use it at any other time.

The kids use it to know when their Dad is going to pick them up. 3 different schools.

I don't really understand the issue. So he gets home, and it shows he's at home as default last location until the next morning? Is it that if he goes out in the evening it still shows he's at home? Or that it just doesn't update if he doesn't change location?

If it said he was home, why did DC not know where he was?

He might not want to be disturbed in the evening so turns on airplane mode then turns airplane mode back off later during the night when it's less likely anyone will text or call.

Maybe DC checked the location hours after the stated location. The app reports the location and the last time of that location but as time goes on it will then report location not found (or similar).

There are a few occasions when being able to track my DH or DS would have been useful but none of us have enable tracking. My DS would absolutely not allow it (and I don't blame him) and my DH doesn't see the need - even though he often goes out walking on his own - although not generally to very remote locations or up mountains.
And whilst I'm sure DH has better things to do than to
track where I am all day, his addiction to our new solar energy/battery app makes me think it might end up being a new hobby for him - so I'm not risking it!

I've no idea about your issue OP but I too find all this constant monitoring of other's movements a bit bizarre. But I am old enough to be the generation who went out to play in the morning and only came home when I was hungry or it was going dark!

Different generations see it differently. I remember when Snapchat map first came out teenagers used it to see what friends might be in the area to meet up with during the holidays and weekends. Younger people don't really see it as being stalked plus they would all know how to turn off location at times they didn't want to be located.

Good grief. This is just bonkers. You're worried he's at home when he's at home. All of the surveillance bullshit has mad everyone absolutely bonkers. I would be very unimpressed if my husband felt he had the right to track my every movement.

Totally agree it has its place. My own Dd knows that if she wants to go out with her friends outwith certain areas I check her location for safety reasons.

Her and her friends check each others locations - it's a social generation thing.

She's 13!!

What I would not do is stalk down my partner and question him about why his is off at any given point (especially when we're both in the house together 🤦🏽‍♀️).

PPs have said it and I've seen it on countless previous threads that they use it to check when their partner leaves the office so they can cook dinner etc.

What happened to couples sending each other a quick "on my way, be home at 6.30" text. Or even a phone call en route to say "how was your day? I'll be 30 mins?"

The fact that it being turned off has you jumping to conclusions highlights a trust issue on your part. That then leads me to question the real reason for you having to know his location anyway.

Do people not feel uncomfortable stalking their own partners and family members? Why is it so much easier to snoop around rather than to ask a direct question?

If you think that the person is going to lie to you, then you have a!ready decided that you are living with a liar. Who wants to live with a liar?

I would be so disappointed in and would lose whatever respect that I might have had for a partner or family member who resorts to stalking.

When you cannot live your life with some measure of dignity , why bother living in those circumstances at all?