In praise of nice dh/dp's!!!

[JoolsTide]

I'm not having a go at anyone but there have been a few threads about some not very nice men and I have every sympathy with their partners BUT I'd like to redress the balance and praise the nice guys!

My dh is lovely and I love him to bits - sure he gets on my nerves at times and we've had our spats but it makes life interesting! So here's to you dh - you're very special!

Actually I think he's lying and probably lets on more about us to his mates than he's admitting to me. Oh well, good job I'm fairly confident about things in that dept!

we do, u know that's nice that is when we sit and talk about random stuff, we had one once where we were talking about nature programmes for about 2 hrs, sad I know but it kept us happy all night! that and he was teaching me mil. law. still it's nice to actually talk to DH instead of the general mundame chat of life iycwim.

Truly thirlling! Actually, kids is the other big topic wiht all my mates whoa re now dads,. In fact, that often becomes the main topic of ocnversation, as most of us ahve kids around the same ages. My goodness, I am middle aged! Quick, get the golf clubs and the togs calender!

lol@ sH, DH seems to like chatting about kids as well as we're TTC, (he also has great delight in telling ll his friend we're TTC - as if it boost's his image or something?? )

Yeah, odd things blokes. I thin becoming a fathre is te first time most of us start growing up at all.

I have a q if u don't mind me asking a bit of a personal one, (blokes point of view and all) as it will be our first, I wanted DH to feel involved etc with everything, so I was thinking of expressin milk and lettin DH bottle feed b4 bed and do the bathing etc... so he has quality time alone with the baby. would you recommend something like that as a dad, or just let the mum get on with things cos I don't want DH to feel left out.

No, great idea. I used to feed both our kids when they were little, DS in particular had to go on to the bottle early, and I would always enjoy feeding him.

I bathed both the kids from birth - partly becuase I knew what I was doing, but mostly becuase it's really important for Dads to have a role that is expecially theirs in their kid's life. I still do most of the bath and bed time routine for both the children, whihc is my mian time with them during the week, and gives DW half and hour's peace and quiet as well!

well that was my logic tbh, (I knwo DH isn't keen on the smelly nappys thing, but as he comprimises and does everything else, it's only fair I suppose!) hmm in fact I think i'll email him and tell him he's great :o

thanks SH.

Good advice, Spamhead: my dh was also chief bather of our first while he was off work (only 2 weeks but good bonding time). He also used to dress her and was always responsible for the night nappies, for which I will love him forever . As well as giving me a break, it gave him confidence and he never felt shut out - it was obvious to him that he was needed.

I would have done the expressing thing as well, but wasn't physically able to, so I'm afraid it was Mummy all the time for the feeding!

It'll make his day. It's very exctiing waiting for the first sprog to arrive, and it was great to be involved with both DS and DD from day one. Makes you feel like a real Dad, adn a real part of your kids lives.

Undertand nappy aversion - believe me, it's far worse once they get weaned - newborn nappies are a doddle by comarison!

well considering just the thought of it is making him physically yak! lol, i won't push the smellys onhim, but he can certainly do the wet ones! lol, all i'm waiting for is a response along the lines of 'he's not mine... his winkle's too small!' :O

:o EVEN

Believe you me, they are all small at that age!

And some long after, but that's another thread!!

lol.

I used to be one of those jaded/cynical women and felt that good men were all taken and that only crap was left until I met my dh.

My dh also deserves to be praised - he is brilliant - he is the one who spends the night upwith dd1 when she was not well ( last night) he spent many a night by her bed when she was in hospital... he helps so much with the dd's and with the housework... esp after my caesar when I was not supposed to lift anything very heavy. He is the best dad my dd could ever ask for.

He phones during the day to make sure all is well when I am coping with the 2 of them. He also moved to the other side of the world, left a very good job and a comfortable life to emigrate babck to my hometown. He works hard to support us all - even taking a job that he hated when he first got here. ( has a great new job that he loves now!!)

I really don't know how I would have coped with the last couple of years without him by my side and his strength to draw on.

got to raise a glass to mr leglebegle aswell, he's just paid for me and my mum to have a weekend in champneys springs health farm, which we have just had and very much appreciated. came back to him settling both children having cooked them and my dad a sunday roast and having tidied up (well attempted to anyway) :)

W & R - very sad to hear your post. Must have been heartbreaking for you all :(