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In praise of nice dh/dp's!!!

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JoolsTide · 10/12/2004 19:11

I'm not having a go at anyone but there have been a few threads about some not very nice men and I have every sympathy with their partners BUT I'd like to redress the balance and praise the nice guys!

My dh is lovely and I love him to bits - sure he gets on my nerves at times and we've had our spats but it makes life interesting! So here's to you dh - you're very special!

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spacedonkey · 11/12/2004 00:21

W&R, I'm so sorry to hear about Ross I'll raise a glass to your DH too.

I have a wonderful boyfriend. He has held me together over the last few months, and now that he is away I realise how much he has done for me, and how much I love him, and I am missing him dreadfully.

wickedwinterwitch · 11/12/2004 08:13

W&R :(

I've got a wonderful man too. He's a SAHD, is fantastic with both children (ds isn't his), does all the washing and a lot of the cooking, cleaning and washing, listens when I moan, calms me when I'm cross or panicking, and is interesting, intelligent, kind and gorgeous.

berolina · 11/12/2004 09:24

W&R - so sorry.

I too have an absolutely wonderful dh - very very often I find myself wondering how he puts up with me. I work full-time as a lecturer and always have loads of work to do at home, and he basically does ALL the housework except washing (which I do) and washing-up (which we usually share but at the moment he's even doing most of that as I'm pg and shattered) WITHOUT complaining. True, he doesn't work, but he's starting doctoral research and has plenty to do with that. He will drive me anywhere at a moment's notice (I don't drive), he loves cooking and will cook fantastic meals, he's going to put his doctorate on hold and stay at home for the first few months after my stat mat leave when our baby is born in June, he puts up with my snappiness and irrationality. He has been there for me so often through so many difficult life situations and was a great comfort after my miscarriage this summer. He has no problem with the fact that I'm earning and he's not - has none of these male power hang-ups at all. Of course, we have our spats (are both pretty temperamental people), but the anger never lasts long and there's an absolute unshakeable faith and trust in each other there. We're having a boy :) (just found out yesterday) - what a wonderful male role model he will have in his father. :)

Donbean · 11/12/2004 10:06

What a lovely thread, (W&R)Its about time there was a nice positive chat on the go.
I too have a fab Hubby. I tend to shut up about him because its a bit embarrasing when people on here and in life talk about thier troublesome relationships and i have nothing bad to say. it would apear smug if i contributed to the conversation.
Without asking or showing him he just seems to know what to do with DS instinctively and is as attentive and close to him as i feel that i am. When we lost our two babies (m/c) i felt that we were in it together, he did not take over in a supportive role, we just did it together. He said all of the things that i was feeling because he was feeling them as well.
His sleeves are rolled up the miniute he walks through the door to take over from me with DS and gives me space and time to do my things.This is even though he has been at work all day himself.
He is respectful,kind good company and my soul mate. He is one of those people that evrey body loves, He seems happy with his lot, a home body and a lovely lovely person.
That does sound smug doesnt it, its just that it is all so true and i never have the opportunity to share it with any one because there seems to be one of DH for every 100 rotters.
Its nice to be able to say all this to you all because you all understand and get it. x

hercyulelog · 11/12/2004 10:09

My dh is a fantastic one. He's always been very hands on as a dad and is always getting complimented on his parenting skills. He works night and looks after the kids whilst I'm at work in the day. He has far more friends at ds's school than I do with the mums and dads.

So sorry W & R.

fee77 · 11/12/2004 10:26

My DH is fantastic too. He cooks, looks after DD, helps out his folks alot and generally does all he can to make people happy.
When we went to see Robbie (another fantastic surprise) he said "This song is about me" it was "Better man" - i am doing all i can to be a better man. What a sweety.
I take him for granted though, moan at him and give him huge lists of jobs. I hope he knows how much i love him.
Today is his birthday - i have just given him a bacon butty in bed!! Then i will tell him his jobs for the day!!

jingleballs · 11/12/2004 10:33

i'm glad i'm not tha only one who leaves a long list for her DH of jobs to do! lol. DH bless him is really trying at the mo (he sent me some flowers and choc even thou he's out of the country cos I sounded 'down' bless him.)

He's stuck by me thru thick and thin and has pushed me back when I pushed him away so I guess in all i'm blessed as well. (just can't wait till we have our first child!)

acnebride · 11/12/2004 10:50

Feeling a winter glow at this thread.
I love my DH although I guess this is the easy bit as we're only just approaching 2 years together. He too has a long-term illness and has been on some serious meds for almost 20 years, but he keeps on keeping on. He is not perfect but is perfect for me - he loves and appreciates what I have to give. He is great with ds and gives me time to myself, also tells me I look great - since i am v overweight this means a lot.

Truth is I might not have realised what I have except for 5 difficult years with xh. Nothing is wasted.

MeerkatsUnite · 11/12/2004 10:53

My heartfelt love and thanks goes out to Mr Meerkats for all the love, support and understanding over the past ten years not least of all with regards to my fertility treatment and putting up with my parents without complaint!.

He is also one of the diamonds: it makes me even more appreciative of the love we have as a couple.

galaxy · 11/12/2004 11:48

To my lovely dh who has calmed me down this morning when I started going ape, followed by a panic attack, because of my tossers that are otherwise known as my employers.

Cadeauxbury · 11/12/2004 12:12

I'd like to commend my dh to you. He really is the sweetest man and puts up with me complaining about his washing up skills and everything else. Yesterday afternoon, he walked through the door having been away for 2 days and walked straight into dealing with me and dd ighting and screaming at each other. Without a complaint or a huff he took her to task over the problem, sat me down, made me a cuppa and played with the kids so I had a minute to myself. This morning (after a more private homecoming celebration ) he got up with ds and took him downstairs so I could have a lie in. Then at 9am he made me a cup of tea and waited for me to emerge so he could make me breakfast and eat it with me (kids had had theirs ages before). He has now taken dd out shopping. He is lovely. And I'm soooooooooo glad I married him 6 and a half years ago.

W&R - I'm so sorry.

galaxy · 11/12/2004 12:37

W+R - only just seen your post. Sending you hugs and so sorry for your loss.

IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 11/12/2004 12:44

Thank you again everyone. My DH has just done another brilliant thing. He's taken the kids, and my mum into Cardiff for the day so I can have p&q to get over this flu.

He said not too worry about tea, as he'll pick something up. So, it's pizza tonight

DingWongMerrilyOnHigh · 11/12/2004 13:05

Mr Wong is fantastic, I won't go on about the lie ins and the completely hands on pull-them around-in-a-cardboard-box-for-2-hours-pretending-it's-a-train type daddy. He takes me out and he looks after me. And he organised and made possible the move over here, so really can't complain.

Never ever ever cooks me a scrap to eat though, ever. He says I'm too hard to please because I used to be a pro. Snores like a bastard though.

Can't complain though.

Cadeauxbury · 11/12/2004 13:05

How lovely of him. He sounds like a very sweet man. I'm glad you have him.

prufRockingAroundtheXmasTree · 11/12/2004 15:56

W&R - so sorry.

My Dh is actually the best of the lot. I came home last night v. drunk (I had another beer on the train cat) and , I am very ashamed to say, threw up (cats fault for making me mix my drinks) He was already asleep, but realised I'd been in the loo for a while and came through to pick me up from the floor where I was sleeping and tuck me up in bed next to him. And he let me stay in bed until 9.30am
When I finally came downstairs, not only had he looked after the children last night, but cleaned teh kitchen, and 2 pairs of my boots.

AllIWantForXmasisPoo · 11/12/2004 16:49

Have to add my dh to this list. Unfortunately I don't think this little box will be big enough. As well as being totally gorgeous with the body of a God, he is the best dad in the world, loves me unconditionally, has been the biggest and best support I have ever had. He cooks (wonderfully), cleans (after much nagging) and works like a dog so that I can look after the baby. He never once laughed at my silly pg neuroses (or at least, not unless I laughed first), and without a doubt the best thing about us both is the way we love each other. He did crawl in smashed at 2am this morning, stinking like a badgers armpit, but then didn't mind one bit when I brought ds into bed with us at 6.30am!
We've been together for 6 years now, and have never yet had an argument. Love you, pie face. x

WigWamBam · 11/12/2004 16:53

W&R, how truly awful.

My dh is just wonderful (most of the time, anyway . He is caring, considerate, loving and kind, he is hard working yet still always finds the time and energy to bath and play with dd the minute he walks through the door. He is the foundation of our lives, and has supported me through thick and thin for the past 15 years. He knows which end of the washing machine and the hoover is which, and does most of the ironing as well.

He is the light of my life, and despite my faults (and I have a few) he worships the ground that I and dd walk on, and I would be nothing without him.

MistltAeroAndWine · 11/12/2004 16:57

Cadders at that celebration!!

Cadeauxbury · 11/12/2004 17:10

mullgedwine · 11/12/2004 17:20

Mine's not so bad either - although he'd faint if he knew i was praising him. He does bins, lightbulbs, anything electrical, and screenwash. Those are his jobs and without him me and the kids would be cold and in the dark. Also just seen a badly hidden Tiffany bag in his bedroom after his trip to london last week .

noddyholder · 11/12/2004 17:24

my dp is the love of my life and if he only had hair he'd be perfect

jingleballs · 11/12/2004 17:27

lol @ noddy!

jingleballs · 11/12/2004 17:29

I can't praise DH too much thou or his head expands too much!, he did the washing for me once, (I hadn't shown him how to use the machine/ what to do) and he put a black/white top in with the undies..... luckily that's all it was as everything came out grey! :o at least the thought was there and his heart was in teh right place, still now he knows how to do it, he gets it all washed and dried for me... shame he won't iron my shirts, aparently thou us women have 'extra' fabric! and he can't do the fronts! :o

Santasluckylittlehelper · 11/12/2004 17:44

I should put my dh here too! He is in the pub at the moment but I will forgive him.

He does his bit at home and I get a cuppa in bed in the mornings when he's not on nights. When our dd was in hospital for weeks as a baby (50 miles from our home)he looked after ds1&2 and even kept up with the ironing, with a bit of help from my mum. She thinks he's a star too despite him suggesting we play twister on Christmas day when she's due to have her hip replaced in the New Year

W&R &

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