Locking a woman and children in

[Thegoodbadandugly]

For what plausible reason would a man lock a woman and children in and then go out? It's happend before where she has had to crawl through a window to get out.

Why would there be a plausible reason for this? Are you not wanting to call the police in case it turns out (which it won't) that there's some totally above-board reason for it?

Plausible to him? To the woman and children? To us?

Plausible reasons: he didn't know they were in, he didn't know she didn't have a key, he thought she was staying in and wanted to lock the door as he was going out, they only have one front door key.

Where's her key? Because if he takes it off her that's unacceptable

He doesn't think that a woman should go out and about without her husband?

Context? My neighbour does this because his wife’s an alcoholic with liver cirrhosis who is killing herself (not saying he’s right to do this). He also locks her when when he’s in the house and she also climbs out through her windows when he’s in bed. I had the shock of my life the other night when I went to put the rubbish out and caught her hiding behind my wheelie bin necking a bottle of vodka. Shes 60 years old btw.

Does she not have her own key? If not, why not? Is this a symptom of a bigger issue, is he generally controlling? Does he control anything else - finances, whether she can get a job, etc?

Plausible reasons would only be if he didn't realise she was locked in and unable to get out. E.g. Didn't know she was home / didn't know she didn't have her key. And then only if its normal for them to lock the door when they're home. If they only have one key, but wanted the door locked, the normal thing to do is get a key cut leave the key with the person staying home.

What's the context of this question? It's totally unsafe to lock someone in.

I can’t really think of a plausible or justifiable reason. It’s totally unsafe.

I lock my partner in sometimes but I always as him first, it's because he's lost every house key he's had. I should add he can get out if it's an emergency but possibly not back in as the front door is a yale lock.
He doesn't lock me in when he goes out as I won't let him take the only remaining key with him!

This is horrifying.

Is she locked in the house with no access to a phone to call 999 in an emergency such as a fire?

That he did not know that her key and the spare keys were lost.

My partner and I lock the door behind us if we go out as it's not a yale lock and we don't want to leave it unlocked.

It's possible that I could leave my house key in the car without either of us realising, and then be locked in (although I'd still have back door and side gate access, so could leave the house that way, plus my kids have own keys, and my parents are round the corner with a spare!).

Without knowing the context I agree with this. I often go out and lock the door behind me out of habit.
However, everyone I live with who is old enough has their own key so is free to unlock as they please....has she not got her own key?

My ex used to lock me and the 2 small dc in the house when he left for work after he'd hidden my keys.

I would have to call him, every day, as he ended up putting them in such strange and unusual places - behind the dvd player, in the fridge, in top of the kitchen cabinets, inside a toilet roll tube - his excuse was that he didn't like me leaving the keys somewhere accessible in case burglars/rapists broke in.

Truth is he was an abusive bastard and he wanted the ultimate control over me - he wanted to know I'd turned the place over trying to find my keys and he could then be my saviour in the guise of trying to protect' me.

*see also taking the pram to work with him so that it didn't clutter up the hall leaving me stranded with a baby and toddler, confiscating my bank card just in case I got robbed and so we could do the shopping together....

TLDR unless there is a REALLY REALLY obvious and straightforward answer, the only reason a dh locks his dw and dc in the house it because he's abusive.

There isn't a plausible acceptable reason.

Years and years ago this was not uncommon [sadly]. A distant relative {F} of mine was widowed and later remarried. Her "D"H would always lock her in when he went out. Sadly I did not hear the ultimate outcome. It would now be regarded at least as coercive control. @Thegoodbadandugly

The only time my husband ever “locks us in” is when he has to leave very early and we are still sleeping but I have a key to the door so I’m not technically locked in with no way out.

If she doesn’t have her own key or access to one then I could only assume he is controlling them and being abusive

Plausible - abuse

Acceptable - nothing

Op are you going to come back and tell us why the woman doesn't just use her own key or is it a secret?

What were the consequences of her climbing through the window @Thegoodbadandugly ?

Sorry I have had a very busy day not sure if she has her own key.

As others have said it depends on if she has her own key or not. If my dh goes out and I'm
Asleep he will lock us in, if I leave my kids in the house and go out I will lock them in, however, I have keys and my dc's have keys so it not an issue cos we can open the door. If you don't have a key to open the door that is abuse and I would imagine other stuff is going on.

What a weird post

Why is it weird? It was a question, I find it really odd, he is a narc. I can't really put any more info as it would be really identifying.