So I matched with a guy on OLD app a week or so ago. Got talking and he suggested meeting, so we arranged a coffee and met last Friday.
It was great! Conversation flowed, lots to talk about. He stayed an hour longer than he planned to. He said at the end of the date he'd text me later, and he did. He said he had a great time and that he hoped I'd had a nice evening.
So the thing is, its now Monday and there have been a few back and forth texts (via the app) but he hasn't suggested going on another date. Despite the fact I go away next week and he knows what days I have off up until then. He's been asking questions and even asked what I had planned on my next day off. I told him what I was doing of the morning (suggesting I was free the rest of that day), but then he carried the conversation on to something else - this would have been the perfect time surely to ask if i'd like to meet later on the day? At the very least i'd have expected a message to suggest meeting either before or after my trip next week.
I think I know the answer really but I did wonder if he doesn't want to come across too full on, as we got talking about our app experiences and I told him I find it offputting when some men get really invested too soon. I did mean, pre first date. But maybe he thinks I meant in general?
He is confident enough to ask me out on the first date, seems level headed (he is late thirties and me mid) so you'd think if he was really interested he would have asked? But have I put him off?
I'm also still texting him via the app despite the fact he sent his number before the first date, I told him I prefer not to swap numbers until I know its going somewhere.
Don't know if its me or him.