Doesn’t want relationship?

[YetAnotherBlokeLurking]

Man here (obvs from user name!) seeking female opinion.
I’ve recently been seeing a lot of someone and all the usual signs of our friendship developing into a romantic relationship have been present.
We’ve kissed and cuddled but she had said that she doesn’t want a relationship however she continues to want to spend a lot of time with me, meals, coffee, drinks, walks etc.
As a man I wouldn’t be still doing this if the roles and intentions were reversed.
Whats the female perspective in this kind of situation?

@YetAnotherBlokeLurking - I understand where you’re coming from. The fact she thinks there’s no problem means it just doesn’t mean that much to me; she’s not as invested as you are. If I were interested in a guy who was treating me the way she’s treating you, I would also distance myself because that would be the only way I could get over him.

Agree with this. She’s been perfectly clear, she doesn’t want a relationship but obviously enjoys hanging out with you and possibly would be up for a casual arrangement. Not sure what’s confusing about that. If that doesn’t work for you, stop seeing her

@heldinadream
I’ve just realised this. I’ve been using the … symbol for each individual post and selecting reply but it’s not working as expected. Am I doing something wrong (in this case I’ve just started a general reply but used @)

You got it!
Carry on...😄

@YetAnotherBlokeLurking, she likes you but not enough to be your girlfriend. When a bloke comes along she really fancies, she'll be off like a shot.

This is really unfair to you, as it prevents you from finding someone who genuinely fancies you.

You cannot argue she only wants a platonic relationship. I have platonic relationships with men and there’s no kissing and cuddling involved. She fancies you but not enough…. Or maybe she fancies you enough but you are not meeting her minimum requirements for some other reason… ie you don’t earn enough, you’re the wrong social class etc. It could be as simple as that. If she was a good person she wouldn’t lead you on knowing you want more ( assuming you’ve both been clear about what you want)

@heldinadream
Using @ doesn’t add the actual message I’m replying to, above my reply though (at least not on my view of the thread) so how do you do that?

How many years younger is she?

Click on three dots to the right and click 'quote'. (Laptop)

Like this?

By Jove I’ve got it😁

Lol. What makes you think she’s younger?

Can you answer please

Shes pootling along having a jolly time with you, until someone she's really interested in comes along

Yes probably.

No sense of humour? I will if you will.

@SauceForTheGoose

You're a filler until she meets someone she wants to be with. Have fun if it suits, but don't get attached.

@FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar

@TomatoSandwiches

@DatingDinosaur

So you don’t want an actual relationship, you just want sex?
Why didn’t you say that in your op?

She enjoys your company, she enjoys the physical contact as far as it goes. She likes spending time with you.

She isn’t interested in a relationship. It might be because of kids, or having recently left a relationship, or past bad experiences, or other commitments, or she wants to focus on her career, or she thinks you’re a stand-in until something better comes along, or just fancies some fun and not a big commitment.

There are loads of possible reasons to not want a relationship and still enjoy companionship.

Oh shit, missed an important update.

So you just want shagging and not companionship nor a relationship? She should throw you back in the sea and find someone else.

Sounds like she thinks they are friends and has made that clear to op and thinks everything is fine.

Meanwhile op just wants a notch on his bedpost.

Op really misled everyone here.