Anyone else's husband like this? Since covid my husband has been able to work from home. He likes it as he's not a sociable person at all, plus of course it saves on things like fuel which is a good thing.
Unfortunately because he has a lazy streak, he now spends all day every day working from the sofa. We have an office upstairs he doesn't use, we have a dining room he doesn't use. He's more comfortable in the living room which I do get but he literally does not move from 8am until bedtime unless he goes to the toilet.
He has become very overweight, completely sedentary, eats zero fruits or veg. (If I add them to a meal he leaves them). He hardly showers or baths. He wears the same clothes multiple days in a row. He's started having health issues and his blood pressure and cholesterol are through the roof.
Outside of his working hours he doesn't go anywhere. He rarely leaves the house. I'm talking up to a month at a time . He then may take a short trip to b&q, tesco or visit family with us. Then it's another month in the house .
Why does does this bother me so much? Because I'm at home too. Whilst he worked out of the house it was decided best I be a sahm to save on childcare costs etc. My kids are now both at school. I do everything for them. Do all school runs to 2 different schools, I do the shopping, run the home, run all the errands, take them to actives, take them out with friends , I even take them on holiday. We are going away next Bank Holiday weekend for 4 days, he is not coming. (I don't mind this)
Whilst we are away he won't be working. He will still spend the whole time on the sofa just watching youtube on tv. We have front and back cctv that I can access through my phone and it alerts me if someone goes through a door. He does not leave the house at all for those 4 days and he just orders take aways every day. I find this level of isolation quite extreme.
Anyway, because we are together all the time I am sick of the sight of him. And him me probably. I try to keep busy in and out of the home but as soon as I walk in through the front door and see him sitting in the same place,my mood massively drops and I feel like the home doesn't have a pleasant atmosphere . During the day when it's just the two of us I try to stay away from him as much as possible, if I speak to him he will grunt one word answers . He doesn't want me to work as he still wants me to do everything for the kids and his wage pays for everything, he earns well. I also suffer from a disability myself which would cause me to be off sick alot which wouldn't be fair to an employer (don't claim benefits)
I can't live another 40/50 years like this. It's like we are a retired older couple but in our 30s. Two separate neighbours have commented on it and asked me if he's alright, why does he never go out and why can they see him always on the sofa. What a way to live. If I could work part time and if he could go into work just a couple of days a week it would solve the issue but he is fully intent on staying this way. In my mind now I'm living like this to keep the kids in a nice home , close to all their friends and schools etc but as soon as they are old enough I will be gone. I count down the minutes until they are home from school and love it when they are home as I can focus on them. But they are getting older now and my son goes out alot , so we are going to be alone together almost 24/7 soon and I just can't do it. It's like being in prison