Affairs everywhere?

Thegoodbadandugly · 2023-05-15T13:56:03+00:00

What is going on at the moment? At work my colleague is having an affair with a married man and most uf us know about it, next door neighbour is having an affair and on here lots of posts about people having affairs. Do we think it's some sort of mental affect from covid? I have never known so many people have affairs.

PainfulAnkles · 15/05/2023 15:05

Cheating has always happened.
Perhaps people just can’t bother to hide it as much as they used to.
Less stigma.
No one really cares, since so much of it is going around.

RunThroughTheJungle · 15/05/2023 15:18

As far as I'm concerned they are. My husband walked out 3 weeks ago. Fucking prick.

Sorry I've been in so many threads banging on about it. I'm obsessed, I will soon calm down and move on.

purpleboy · 15/05/2023 15:54

RunThroughTheJungle · 15/05/2023 15:18

As far as I'm concerned they are. My husband walked out 3 weeks ago. Fucking prick.

Sorry I've been in so many threads banging on about it. I'm obsessed, I will soon calm down and move on.

I'm sorry your going through that
Fucking bastard.

I don't know if it's a new thing, I've always known about loads and still do now😔
Makes one feel rather jaded at times.

EmmaEmerald · 15/05/2023 15:56

I see it too OP

It seems so constant now, it's practically a norm.

Newusernameaug · 15/05/2023 15:59

I haven’t noticed anymore than average, however I don’t have a wide social circle of couples.
I do see people have changed since covid, shorter temper, doing things they’d only thought or dreamt about before, more of a fuck it attitude so I guess this would mirror that sort of behaviour.

mydogisthebest · 15/05/2023 16:00

PainfulAnkles · 15/05/2023 15:05

Cheating has always happened.
Perhaps people just can’t bother to hide it as much as they used to.
Less stigma.
No one really cares, since so much of it is going around.

Pretty sure a lot of people do care. Cheaters disgust me and I know I am not the only one that feels that way.

In the past I have known quite a few people having affairs (mainly work colleagues) but no one, to my knowledge, is cheating at the moment

Discwriter · 15/05/2023 16:02

Yep, I am in the 35-45 age bracket and have several friends dealing with the aftermath of affairs. Myself included.

Pinkprescription · 15/05/2023 16:08

I do think that the whole OLD thing makes it very easy for men (married or not) to meet someone else for whatever purpose (and vice versa). I suspect some people use it as a means of getting something they would have previously paid for. I also think it perpetuates the grass is always greener myth - whoever you are with there is someone "better" out there.

But affairs have always happened. Sometimes when we are shocked or dislike something - eg friend's husband having an affair, we can be subconsciously tuned in to it.

Chypre · 15/05/2023 16:15

Binged HBOs miniseries over the weekend and there was a scene where characters were agreeing the terms of conditions of their affair and made a huge flowchart (what days, who's booking accommodation, who is in charge of bringing snacks to motel FFS) . My blood ran cold on an instant...😂If this is what it takes I can not possibly imagine adding YET ANOTHER thing to plan on top of everything.

curlychocs · 15/05/2023 18:00

Yep - I'm in the aftermath of it and know several people who have gone through/going through the same. I'm 44 and stbx 43

Dweetfidilove · 15/05/2023 18:31

People have always had affairs.
I knew of a few workplace ones over the years, know of a few now - one that's been going on for 2 decades.
They are rife.

RunThroughTheJungle · 15/05/2023 18:52

@purpleboy Thank you. 25yrs we were together and he left me for someone 20 years younger. He had an emotional affair but I kicked him out, let her put up with his woeful ED. So when I call him a fucking prick, I'm obviously totally lying 😂😂😂

BCBird · 15/05/2023 18:53

Infidelity stinks

Deathbyfluffy · 15/05/2023 18:59

Pinkprescription · 15/05/2023 16:08

I do think that the whole OLD thing makes it very easy for men (married or not) to meet someone else for whatever purpose (and vice versa). I suspect some people use it as a means of getting something they would have previously paid for. I also think it perpetuates the grass is always greener myth - whoever you are with there is someone "better" out there.

But affairs have always happened. Sometimes when we are shocked or dislike something - eg friend's husband having an affair, we can be subconsciously tuned in to it.

My ex, a woman, also used OLD to find her affair partner.
It’s not a thing just men do - in fact I know more women in my friendship / work circles that have had affairs than men.

purpleboy · 15/05/2023 19:03

RunThroughTheJungle · 15/05/2023 18:52

@purpleboy Thank you. 25yrs we were together and he left me for someone 20 years younger. He had an emotional affair but I kicked him out, let her put up with his woeful ED. So when I call him a fucking prick, I'm obviously totally lying 😂😂😂

Fucking hell, he couldn't be more of a cliche if he tried.
25 years to just throw it away, I'll never understand. I can't even find the words for men like that, or her, how do you do that to another woman🤦🏽‍♀️.

I really am so sorry, I hope you have a great support network and your life is fulfilled.

Shapemyeyebrows · 15/05/2023 19:09

@Thegoodbadandugly affairs are obviously nothing new but I agree that since Covid I’ve never heard of so many affairs / people splitting up. I can imagine Covid highlighted a lot of issues in relationships. I also wonder if people who weren’t happy in their relationships stayed together through Covid due to not being able to see anyone else etc so all the break ups are happening now.

TheSnootiestFox · 15/05/2023 19:10

Some years ago I was a high flying professional, and I realised that every single man that I admired professionally was either having or had had an affair, some even resulting in the OW having their baby. This was 2014 and before so nothing to do with Covid!

RunThroughTheJungle · 15/05/2023 19:27

@purpleboy and until February we was 100% in love with me, we had an issue with the ED which had effected the intimacy, I'll be honest. But he'd have been appalled at the suggestion he'd ever do this. All I've had is comments saying "but he adored you". I'm dumbfounded if I'm honest. I'd say I've had a breakdown for the past 3 weeks, I haven't slept more than 2 hours a night and I've lost over a stone in weight. However, I feel I have turned a corner today. I'm a strong woman and have a lot going for me. I've had people contacting me to offer support and friendship, I've taken them up on it tbh. Plus my family are amazing.

Plus I have strangers like yourself, who will agree that he's a massive twat and listen to me rant. It has been invaluable, even though I have sounded bloody deranged at times. 👍

RememberNancyDrew · 15/05/2023 19:40

I'm older, was a teenager in the 1970s, and it seemed back then everyone was having affairs, including multiple relatives. True, too, in the 1980s - oh, the 80's were crazy.

With Covid and the overall Fuck It attitude, I bet it is even worse now. As a lifetime single, maybe I knew more than most. People love to confess to me.

Kindheartedperson · 15/05/2023 19:41

My husband packed up and moved out when I was at a meeting for our son, I had to phone him after I picked our little man up from school to be told “I have moved out and am not coming back” to then find out he had been hanging around his dirty dog of an ex’ not even 2 weeks after moving out. He then said he was having nothing to do with her haha yeah right and am a millionaire 🤣🤣. That was 7 weeks ago now and he hasn’t even bothered with our son.

RunThroughTheJungle · 15/05/2023 19:55

Kindheartedperson · 15/05/2023 19:41

My husband packed up and moved out when I was at a meeting for our son, I had to phone him after I picked our little man up from school to be told “I have moved out and am not coming back” to then find out he had been hanging around his dirty dog of an ex’ not even 2 weeks after moving out. He then said he was having nothing to do with her haha yeah right and am a millionaire 🤣🤣. That was 7 weeks ago now and he hasn’t even bothered with our son.

What is wrong with these men. I genuinely feel they have a self destruct button. They see happiness, their own happiness and just detonate it. It's bloody stupid!

Mine has constantly been in touch with our kids but they're adults, so they can speak for themselves and not have to go through me.

Kindheartedperson · 15/05/2023 20:04

@RunThroughTheJungle honestly I would love to know what goes though there heads, what’s that saying the grass isn’t always greener ! Our little boy only 6 he has asd he never once thought how his shitty way out would affect our son, am great believer in karma. Hope your ok.

Kindheartedperson · 15/05/2023 20:06

@RunThroughTheJungle my little boy keeps asking when daddy’s coming home, it’s so sad he just doesn’t understand, so i tell him daddy’s working away making lots of penny’s for you 🤦‍♀️.

RunThroughTheJungle · 15/05/2023 20:31

@Kindheartedperson my husband cried when our ds went to uni, dd has 2 years until she goes to uni (I said adult but she's 17), but he's now living somewhere else, he will never not regret that, I'm sure.

My best wishes to you and your little boy. We may struggle with it now but we'll all be better off without them.

Kindheartedperson · 16/05/2023 09:04

@RunThroughTheJungle thank you ❤️, yeah your so right and we will have the last laugh! Hope you have a fabulous day 🌞