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Affairs everywhere?

37 replies

Thegoodbadandugly · 15/05/2023 14:56

What is going on at the moment? At work my colleague is having an affair with a married man and most uf us know about it, next door neighbour is having an affair and on here lots of posts about people having affairs. Do we think it's some sort of mental affect from covid? I have never known so many people have affairs.

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whichwayisup · 16/05/2023 09:27

I haven't noticed an uptick but there have always been affairs going on around me. Will never understand it. Currently two colleagues leaving their marriages for each other🤢.

I think it's drama lama's who actually believe they are living out an HBO special. I really don't get the middle aged "falling in love" bullshit. Especially when they've clearly been "in love" previously so understand that it's just a temporary state which resolves to 2 people having to put up with each others shit.

Maybe I'm just not romantic enough.

purpleboy · 16/05/2023 12:11

RunThroughTheJungle · 15/05/2023 19:27

@purpleboy and until February we was 100% in love with me, we had an issue with the ED which had effected the intimacy, I'll be honest. But he'd have been appalled at the suggestion he'd ever do this. All I've had is comments saying "but he adored you". I'm dumbfounded if I'm honest. I'd say I've had a breakdown for the past 3 weeks, I haven't slept more than 2 hours a night and I've lost over a stone in weight. However, I feel I have turned a corner today. I'm a strong woman and have a lot going for me. I've had people contacting me to offer support and friendship, I've taken them up on it tbh. Plus my family are amazing.

Plus I have strangers like yourself, who will agree that he's a massive twat and listen to me rant. It has been invaluable, even though I have sounded bloody deranged at times. 👍

I'm so glad you feel you've turned a corner. Talk about having the rug pulled out from underneath you.

One day he will seriously regret what he has done. Fucking idiot.

How are your children taking it? It can't be easy for your 17yo 😔

Your doing a great job of holding it together even though I'm sure at times it hasn't felt that way. You deserve so much better, and I know I'm only an internet random, but I am so angry on your behalf.

He has thrown away everything and for what? Angry

purpleboy · 16/05/2023 12:13

Kindheartedperson · 15/05/2023 19:41

My husband packed up and moved out when I was at a meeting for our son, I had to phone him after I picked our little man up from school to be told “I have moved out and am not coming back” to then find out he had been hanging around his dirty dog of an ex’ not even 2 weeks after moving out. He then said he was having nothing to do with her haha yeah right and am a millionaire 🤣🤣. That was 7 weeks ago now and he hasn’t even bothered with our son.

I'm so sorry for you and your son, how can he do that to a 6yo. Poor DS must be so confused.
Bastards the lot of them. I hope they get a serious dose of Karma.

RunThroughTheJungle · 16/05/2023 17:45

@purpleboy my 17yo is currently being assessed for autism, after spending 2 years being a school refuser and us finally getting her out to college. She is now struggling and has asked to speak to a therapist. I'll never forgive him, I really won't.

CountZacular · 16/05/2023 17:55

I don’t think I’ve really noticed an increase in affairs IRL (though I doubt anyone would confide in me) but I do agree that there seems to be significantly more posts on here.

I suppose it could be a combination of the cooped up feeling during lockdown with the ease of OLD when people were free to mingle again. And I think there’s just more of a general dissatisfaction with life post Covid/ cost of living issues. Cheap thrills (as it were).

RedSharpie · 16/05/2023 17:58

I’m having an affair. I never see DP during the week. He’s a workaholic. No intimacy. We have a sibling type relationship. We have two children, and we function well together for them.

I see OM about once every two months. We don’t converse other than to have sex.

Chowtime · 16/05/2023 18:01

Agree with a PP who said nobody cares anymore.

It used to be normal to be faithful. Now it's normal to be unfaithful.

It's the main reason i'm single. The fuck am I gonna share my lover with someone else.

mydogisthebest · 16/05/2023 21:17

Chowtime · 16/05/2023 18:01

Agree with a PP who said nobody cares anymore.

It used to be normal to be faithful. Now it's normal to be unfaithful.

It's the main reason i'm single. The fuck am I gonna share my lover with someone else.

I don't think it's normal to be unfaithful. Certainly in my family it's not. Don't think it is among my friends either.

Some people certainly have low morals

purpleboy · 17/05/2023 11:42

RunThroughTheJungle · 16/05/2023 17:45

@purpleboy my 17yo is currently being assessed for autism, after spending 2 years being a school refuser and us finally getting her out to college. She is now struggling and has asked to speak to a therapist. I'll never forgive him, I really won't.

JFC poor girl, he did that instead of supporting you both as a decent father and husband should do!
I'm so so sorry your all going through this.
I could never forgive either.
I do hope you have lots of RL support xx

Highlighta · 17/05/2023 11:52

In my opinion, its the age group.

From 40's on, it is way more common than the younger years.

I think marriages gets stale, mid life crisis kicks in, technology makes things easier.

Oh, and yes, but much more brazen now.

(I am a divorced woman in early 50s. I don't have enough fingers or toes to keep count of how many times I have been hit on by married men, who are not even hiding the fact they are married. Sigh).

WandaWomblesaurus · 17/05/2023 11:55

Social media too, people can easily get in touch with exes and have emotional affairs that lead to real ones in times of stress.

Highlighta · 17/05/2023 11:57

Chowtime · 16/05/2023 18:01

Agree with a PP who said nobody cares anymore.

It used to be normal to be faithful. Now it's normal to be unfaithful.

It's the main reason i'm single. The fuck am I gonna share my lover with someone else.

You and me both.

I don't even want a FB, as most of those who were possibilities were married too.

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