What does “stay in touch” mean?

[summerin69]

I’m back in the world of dating and just met a man for coffee. We had a good time, conversation flowed, eyes locked a few times, we laughed quite a bit. I liked him enough to see him again but not sure the feeling is mutual. At the end he gave me a really nice hug and said…. “Stay in touch”. What does that mean? Interested? Not interested? Not sure?

It means you won't see him again.

yeah it means you will def not be keeping in touch

Not interested. He’s giving you the brush off.

Not interested

It means what he says-stay in touch. If he didn't want to stay in touch he wouldn't have said it.

Yes I agree with pp, maybe I am clueless but I think for the most part if men say 'stay in touch' they mean it literally not just a brush off.

'Keep in touch' is the kind of thing I say to neighbours when they are moving house, or to a colleague that has a new job.

Very unlikely that I will see/ speak to them again.

They aren’t meaning it literally at all. It’s just a more polite thing to say than a blunt “I’m not interested”.

In my opinion if men are interested they will be in touch !

Stay in touch = I'm not interested but, like Chandler in Friends, just cannot say so.

Really? I said it at the end of my last date. It didn't mean I wasn't interested. I meant what I said , stay in touch 🤷‍♀️

If a man is interested in you, he will be in touch. If you have to chase him, forget it.

"Stay in touch" = I'm not romantically interested.

"I had a great time, what are you doing on Saturday" = I want to see you again.

Sorry OP he’s just not that into you. Stay in touch is a polite casual way of saying, you can text me if you like but I probably won’t reply, but I like the attention.

If he really liked you he would have called/texted you by now and arranged another date. If a guy likes you, he won’t put himself in a position to lose you. He knows you’re dating and would be concerned another man would snap you up.

Im sorry.

Can you see the flaw in that logic?

I worded it poorly. If a man is interested, he'll be in touch with you. Chasing him is a waste of time. Better?

It's a polite way of giving you the brush off. If he wanted to see you again, he'd have said "what are you doing next weekend?" Or shall we go out for dinner in a few days time or something else more concrete.

It’s a poorly worded brush off.
Stay in touch I would translate as “you might hear from me again if I get desperate.”
Or maybe I’m wrong and he really does want to keep in touch and doesn’t want to come off as being too keen to say, “what are you up to next Friday?”

Wait and see if he contacts you to meet again. If not, it's a no.

Don't waste time dwelling on it when the above is simple.

I've done quite a lot of OLD. The keen ones message within the hour. Stay in touch is a brush off sorry. Don't message him! There's plenty of others out there.

Yep, its a definite not interested brush off.

Why on earth then say something you don't mean? It's silly.

You wants to keep you on back burner for a potential shag but you’re not relationship material to him.

It means “It seems rude to say I’ll never contact you again, so I’m going to say stay in touch, but I won’t”.

Folks in general pay lip service to keeping in touch. I’d say he was brushing you off but if you’re interested I hope he follows up.
Going off piste a bit,
If you have ever met a long lost friend or colleague in the High Street and their parting shot is “we must have a coffee sometime” we all know it’ll never happen. It’s just they like to sound kind but have no intention of following up!
(if you whipped out your diary & asked “Yes! When?” They’d probably be quite shocked.