What’s your second marriage like compared to your first?

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Just interested. I hope it will happen for me again one day. Lots of people I know seem happier second time around

It’s so completely different it’s hard to put into words, in a good way.

A million times better.
Zero hassle, lots of laughs and fun.
First Mr Red was a dick, and is continuing to be the biggest dick in the world.
My DH is wonderful and I wouldn't swap him for a million quid

It lasted a lot longer but was 100 times worse! 😂

Incomparably better. I am so appreciative of our marriage and so grateful for my DH, even on an average or even bad day in our life and relationship together.

Occasionally it crosses my mind that there is a parallel universe out there in which I am still in the first marriage. I shudder and then hold my husband a little more closely.

Very different in a nice way. I think a second marriage must be different if you divorce to being widowed or a widower.

Started brightly shut over time it became as stale as the first one. Maybe I am the problem. We

My first marriage just died from boredom.
Second marriage was 100 x worse and he nearly killed me.
There’ll never be a third.

Completely worth turning my life upside for, in so many ways. Caused a shit lot of upset to get here. But completely worth it.

Went from abusive violent first marriage to being a single parent for 10 years then meeting 2nd husband now got 4 young ones and older and so happy I now know what it's like to be treat nicely

Amazing 2nd time round. Night and day to my first marriage. Found my true soulmate.

Can't even compare! My first marriage was a costly mistake, while now I'm married to the love of my life :)

I could explain it by being older and wiser, having experience to lean on when making relationship work, but really it is mostly down to finding someone I am compatible with and who loves and respects me.

2nd time round has changed my life.
He's the exact opposite of my ex.
Never knew love/affection/attraction could be so intense.
The boring mundane moments have been replaced with a happy and content feeling.
He's my person.

My first wasn't horrible, just as we got older I felt like we had nothing in common (bit of an age gap which became more apparent).

Second is more passionate in every way - more argumentative, more loving...he challenges me and I like that.

Couldn't be more different, first was argumentative, rude and a crap dad second is patient, funny and a brilliant dad . We just click and I miss him when I'm not with him , been together 17 years and tell each other every day we love each other .

It has its issues - no human or relationship is perfect. He is perfect for me though and we have a lot of fun together and work well together too.

Second marriage is my real marriage
He's funny, kind, respects me and loves me
We look after each other and are proud of each other, we enjoy just hanging out together and are each other's friend as well as spouse.
I didn't think I would even consider getting married again but after a few years together it was easy and obvious.

Calmer. Better friendship. Mutual trust. I have more patience. Respectful. I feel listened to. Comfortable. Content.

And no violence or cheating which is great!

There's less passion and romance, which is a shame. But the benefit of having my best friend as a partner for life vastly outweigh the short lived excitement of a volatile relationship.

It was much better, for a long time. Then slowly started sliding down to the same level as the first.

I'm the common denominator, so I took a serious look at myself to find out why I was drawn to (essentially) big old mummy's boys.

I think I've got it sorted- certainly my relationship with DP is the best one I've ever had, and I hope we're together forever, but I don't know if I'll marry him. Just In Case it's that 😂

Well I actually love him! First hubby was my best friend but there was no spark, no passion...it was like sharing my life with a pleasant acquaintance. 2nd time round I'm crazy about him.
There are more arguments now but also more laughter, more honesty, more shared values, more connection.... It's much more like how I imagined marriage would be!

Yes - this for me too.

Much better

Much much better. I now have a husband that does his share of the housework, puts his entire salary in the joint pot, treats me respectfully, comforts me if I’m upset rather that saying “cry then, you’ll piss less” and does not think it’s ok to blast his horn and yell “show us yet tits” to any woman walking down the road with me and the kids in the car (well it’d be grandkids now. But you know what I mean)

i could go on all day……..

ah these are lovely responses - gives me hope thanks

I think I made a mistake giving up on my first marriage so easily. He was a lovely, decent man and I hurt him by ending it. It will always be a matter of regret. Husband No 2 was a huge mistake. He love bombed me, I fell hook, line and sinker. We were together for 15 years and it wasn't until he left me that I realised what he actually was. I won't go on but it's taken a lot of therapy to come to terms with what he did and the serial cheating I had no idea about. He's abandoned our only child and moved to the other end of the country. He has put me off men for life. I prefer to be single.

literally a "what she said". and then arrows pointing to what you wrote.

horrible state of events. irrevocable change.