My DS has never been in a relationship before and he is turning 25 next month, He's never really talked about dating or women much although I remember about a year ago him saying to me that he doesnt get any matches on dating apps so he has just given up on dating.
But last weekend he was at a club with a few of his friends and he said that while he was chatting to this girl her friend came up and said to her "You can do better". He then said that she went to the toilet but never came back, then the next morning he went on a rant about how women dont like him and how everyone else is getting sex and Relationships while he aint.
He has attractive qualities about him and he is in the process of getting a mortgage for his own house so he will be moving out soon. He has a good paying job, He has always been introverted/quiet but I worry that he might be on some incel community.
The reason why I think this is because I know incels are very into thier looks and so is he, He wears shoes or boots that make him taller even tho he is 6'0 already so maybe he doesnt think he is tall enough, He buys lots of skincare products and teeth whitening kits, he also chews a lot of gum because according to him it burns facial fat and improves jawline, He also goes to the gym most days a week
But At the same time I do think that woman was wrong to say that and I feel as if that experience has damaged his confidence even more. Although when he talked about what happened and went on that rant I could sense that he is fustraited, his father heard it and said "Well if your that desperate then just get a prostitute" but im very against it and I would be gutted if my son thinks that its ok to pay a woman for sex. He also mentioned that most girls his age are having tons of sex while he has never held hands with a woman before.
But by looking at him, how he presents himself, how he acts out in public because he has very good manners and his social skills are fine but you wouldnt think he is an incel although after his rant Im stating to think that he is secretly on incel communities and has been brainwashed by incel ideology