So the past week or so DH has done this thing twice to me, second time knowing I found it disrespectful as I politely told him. First time in front of MIL (who BTW is cold hearted, aloof and fake around me), I was washing up the dishes after our lunch and DH was talking to her in the kitchen. I accidently knocked plates in the sink and DH stops talking and says 'I'll continue when the crashing's stopped' - but in an arsey way with a rude tone. I found it really disrespectful especially in front of MIL (they often talk eg when he's driving home from work and I know he discloses stuff to her)
So I was really annoyed and told him later I felt he being rude. Like, I feel a kind or even normal person would say 'oh are you ok' or 'oh do you need a hand love?' (that's what I would say, or would just pause and say nothing)
Then tonight I'm in the kitchen and he's talking, I again knocked a glass over in the sink and it clattered, he goes 'I'll continue what I was saying when the clattering stops' - in such a rude way. I said, that was really rude, he said no it wasn't at all. I said would you say that to a coworker? He said yes I would.
By the way we have had arguments on and off about parenting mostly, he is stricter than me, ie. we've had our issues and it is not perfect by a long shot. I am just wondering though if others would view that as rude if said to them by their DH in a condescending way or would you brush it off??