Am I overreacting

[Bythesea83]

So in short . My son is 15 . Visiting family the weekend and he’s having a great time . At the dinner table of family member (my side of family) my son is using his spoon to eat as well as knife and fork . My oh (sons step dad )pulls him up on this quite embarrassing saying you’re not a baby you don’t eat like that at home . My son obviously embarrassed answers back . My oh carries it on and a small argument starts at dinner table . Quite cringing 😬
I didn’t say anything but was annoyed and today when alone with oh have tried to bring this up and he says he did nothing wrong but I feel that if he just left it then no one would have felt uncomfortable as it’s not a major thing but I feel my oh is just a confrontational person . ( a 40 year old at the table also used a spoon )
I know all this may seem petty but I just feel my son was made to feel silly In front of his family when it wasn’t necessary as we weren’t exactly out in a restaurant . Am I overthinking and am I wrong for not agreeing with this

I think the time to correct table manners is most certainly NOT in front of others.

He was wrong and I would be well pissed off.

Definitely mention it privately but not in front of others.

.....and I am a demon for table manners.

TELL him not to correct your childs table manners in front of others.

He's "confrontational" is he?🙄

Very embarrassing for your son and for others at the table.

OP didn't challenge him without conflict. She told him what he'd done wrong. That's creating a conflict, unnecessarily.

@Watchkeys challenging something doesn't always cause conflict. It is just a different perspective and it is right to bring things up that cause conflict like this issue. Imagine if we all just agreed to everything!

Well dominant characters often view ANY view contrary to theirs as a "challenge", and as "creating conflict".

That's how they shut down the views of others.

I call that controlling, manipulative and abusive.

Challenging something also doesn't always mean telling someone they were wrong. That's what makes a conflict. 'I disagree' or 'I felt bad when you...' are healthy challenges. 'My opinion is right and yours is wrong' is the definition of conflict.