Moronic DH stepped over suitcase to come upstairs

[ukholidayseeker]

Why oh why can't my stupid husband ever take stuff upstairs?!? He actually steps over things which are pretty much blocking the staircase to come upstairs. I am now going to lug the suitcase upstairs myself despite not being able to lift heavy things due to bad back.

Or you could ask him to do it?

He's asleep.

That's annoying. It sounds like contempt has crept into the marriage if you're calling him moronic, which is usually the beginning of the end of a marriage

Wake him up !

Leave the suitcase till tomorrow and go to bed. In future if you want him to carry something, ask him. If my DH left a suitcase at the bottom of the stairs, I'd assume there was a reason he'd left it there (since it's a stupidly inconvenient place to leave a suitcase). I wouldn't automatically move it.

OP, they really are idiots.

This reminds me of a time years ago back in the days of when I was miserably married, the ex and I were going through a very rough patch and I moved myself into the spare room. One of the cats took a crap on the (marital) bedroom rug... You'd think he'd clean it up like you know, a regular human being... Nah. He simply folded one half of the rug over to cover it up. And there it stayed... For weeks 🤷🏻

I flat out refused to deal with it. I wasn't sleeping in there, and I was curious at how long it would take for him to DO ONE THING, to keep the flat clean. In the end he binned the rug, but it took long enough.

I don't think they change when they're like this...

So when he wakes up point at suitcase and announce not ask "can't carry bad back your job it needs to go on top of wardrobe"

I think some men literally need to be told what to do and when, it’s like having a man-child and it’s exhausting.

I've called my DH worse many times. Still married to him, very happily. He can just be really annoying and/or sappy or daft sometimes. Including walking past things that are sat on the stairs to go up. And sometimes I lose patience with it and need a rant! Think we need more info than just this before writing the OPs marriage off!

Oh my god that's really grim. How could in sleep in their for weeks!🤮🤮🤮

if you need the suitcase out of the way tonight then wake him up and let him sort it.

If you need it done tomorrow, tell him to do it tomorrow,

Then tell him to be less fucking inconsiderate in future - either way.

Well that’s pretty understandable if he’s treating her like a fucking skivvy.

My whole family has stair blindness. Drives me insane.

If you decide to make a martyr of yourself by lugging the case upstairs with a bad back, that's on you. Yes, he did an annoying thing, but if you deliberately compound the impact of that by over straining your own back rather than wait for him to do it, or wake him up to do it if it has to be immediate, then you're either being very passive aggressive towards him, or are as daft as a brush.

That’s an episode of Everyone Loves Raymond.

Put smelly cheese in it 😂

Just leave it and ask him to do it when he wakes up.

Why did you still carry it?

Seriously, if you’re not allowed to carry heavy stuff, just DO NOT DO IT.
Treat yourself and your body with the respect they deserve. A suitcase can wait until the morning.

Also if you say you can’t do something but still do it ‘because no one else is doing it’, you are actually giving the message that you CAN do those things and there is no reason to actually take your request seriously.
If you want your partner to treat your back issues seriously, you need to start by treating it seriously yourself.

And btw I agree, he isn’t blind. He just knows that if he is ignoring all that, you’ll do it instead. So why should he??

But the answer to that is to STOP picking up after him and tell him to move from his backside and do it instead.

Same 😂

Sometimes my husband is kind enough to pick up the items that are left on the stairs. And move them to the top of the cupboard that is right at the top of the stairs… for me to sort out at my leisure.

I know, I know… LTB already.

Ah, the stuff at the bottom of the stairs argument. We have this is our house, and it does my nut in, except I'm the one who doesn't carry other people's stuff up the stairs.

If you want something taken up the stairs, take it up the bloody stairs. Don't just leave it at the bottom for someone else to do. I take stuff upstairs, DD takes stuff up the stairs, why the hell does DP leave it at the bottom for anyone to trip over! It's infuriating.

Luggage is a bit different, I'll generally proactively take it up because I know it's too heavy, but still, don't just leave it sat in the way, put it in a corner somewhere and ask me to do it if you need it upstairs right now.

More fool you for lugging it upstairs and not leaving it for him to do when he wakes up.

I'd assume that a suitcase at the bottom of the stairs was there for a reason! Why would I move it

I never said it wasn't understandable

I couldn't stay with someone I considered to be moronic or if they thought I was moronic, but we're all different