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Fight with husband 8 week old baby

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yvonneb13 · 15/04/2023 13:01

Me and DH have been fighting now for 2 days now because apparently "what do I do all day" we gave a 8 week old and yes I've let the house work slide and washing well today it came to a head because he asked me that question I'm so angry and upset because I'm trying my hardest this coming from the guy who doesn't do any night feeds because he "works" all day don't get me wrong when he's good he's really good he takes the baby and Is a great dad but it's me he seems to have a problem with because "I don't work" the house shopping baby ect should be done.
I AM PISSED OFF MAJORLY. Told him to leave because I don't wanna be around him right now he's went to his friends kinda just want him to stay there for now.

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Ladylalaboo1 · 16/04/2023 01:10

Jesus Christ I would just hand him the baby just after they have done a big shitty nappy and leave for the entire day possibly night and then come back and demand to know why the house wasn't sparkling clean. Because it won't be, because that's just absolutely fucking insane and if it was I'd be more worried you weren't caring for your 8 week old adequately if you can manage to keep the house completely together when you have a newborn. Is your husband a newborn too because how is he this naive to think a baby won't mess up a house and it's routine for the first few months??! What an arse, sorry op you definitely need to put him in his place and let him experience being the sole parent for a few hours atleast so he can understand how difficult it really is, shouldn't have to do that but it might help

Teapot13 · 16/04/2023 01:43

Really don't see why he doesn't do night feedings if baby has formula.

If the housework is so vitally important, why hasn't he stayed home to do it?

Naunet · 16/04/2023 10:23

usererror99 · 15/04/2023 14:14

So are you saying you haven't put a single wash or on cleaned the house in 8 weeks?

Sorry, you seem to have forgotten 2 adults live in the house, why are you only asking if she has done that in the last 8 weeks, rather than if either of them have? Do you think having a job (or a penis) is a more valid excuse not to put on a wash, over having an 8 week old baby maybe?

Naunet · 16/04/2023 10:27

You're on maternity leave, not skivvy for an entitled dickhead leave. Did he think having a baby would make his life easier, because he would have to do LESS around the house? Poor stupid manchild.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 16/04/2023 12:38

Did he think having a baby would make his life easier, because he would have to do LESS around the house? Poor stupid manchild.

I think there is actually a certain class of man who genuinely does think that - that you have to be at home with a baby, but it only takes about half an hour or so of productivity out of your day - so you've got all that extra free time to be getting on with all the housework, and saving him the bother of having to not do it anyway, as well as his big important job.

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