Whilst she was pregnant, a close friend asked me to be a godmother to the child when they arrived. At the time, we were close and I was elated. However, I moved further away shortly afterwards and our friendship fizzled out. We don't speak or chat as often anymore and when we do, it's all about her. I've noticed my single stories (about how I'm still trying to meet someone nice) don't seem to interest her anymore. She just brushes them off and changes subject. I guess she's just tired of me being stuck in singlehood for years so I understand. She never came to visit me in my new city, whilst in the past when we lived a few cities apart, we saw 2-3 times a month mostly because I made the effort, whether it is proposing meet-ups/visits, or driving to her, or most time picking the tabs.
Just before and when the baby arrived, I kept asking to come see her and help with preparations or settling in but she declined saying they had enough support around and they want the baby to be slightly older before I came. So, I sent a gift. But in the same vein, she's told me other friends have come around.
All these made my excitement die down and I emotionally detached from this idea of being a godmother.
Now my friend is telling me they're ready for me to come visit. But I've lost interest.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to be a material godparent whose gifts are welcome but not so much their presence (one of the reasons my friend chose me is because I'm hardworking and giving, plus I'm single with no family so I have a bit to spare).
I'm just reflecting on my life and I'm always the one giving or making the effort. I doubt that my friend would be there for me when my time comes.
What do I do? Go see friend and new godchild (3hour drive away) and crack on with this godmother duty? or just continue to send gifts? or just slow-fade them once and for all?
Please advise and share your experiences with godparenting.