Honest opinions please

[Bel2379]

I’m morally torn and have no idea what to do.

I agreed 3 months ago to go to my best friends 30th birthday party. At this time I was single .
I broke up with my ex a year ago and now he wants to try again …. His birthday is on my friends birthday party date.

He wants me to ditch the party for him as it’s his birthday and I’m not prioritising him.
Ive explained the plans were made months ago and my friend has been there throughout the breakup (it was messy) and I’m not just going to ditch her - she’s even invited him.

I know it’s not ideal but I planned a whole day for us the day before - London , booked a table for dinner but he said it’s not good enough as it’s not his birthday then.

I now feel very guilty and torn

Don't be ridiculous @Bel2379

Of course you don't get back with this controlling man child tosser

Get rid of him

Go to your friends party

And stop being a door mat

Same answers as on the other two threads you have started about this exact same scenario.

... And you don't feel guilty about letting the friends down that stuck by you all year? You need to find a guy that knows how to behave like an adult. I don't understand why you are keeping him set the agenda - put your foot down now otherwise you must know where this relationship is headed.

This!!!

Take your friend on the fun day out instead and dump him, he’s an ex for a reason

No. He wasn't there when you made the commitments to your friend.

I also understand he wants you at his.

It's always mates before dates.
Celebrate his the day before or after

Thanks everyone- I was never not going to go to the party , I’d never let my friend down like that.

but I had this tiny bit of doubt because he was so upset about it that I just wanted some reassurance.

Backtracking

clearly you were very very much not considering going

I’m morally torn and have no idea what to do.

I'd go to the party instead of spending anymore time at his carnival of red flags.

Also, because what you planned for him wasn't good enough for him, take your friend as her birthday gift and a thank you for being there for you. I would imagine you'll have a better time instead.

Take time for yourself. There is better out there when you are ready.

I now feel very guilty and torn

You feel guilty for keeping your word about a promise to a friend ?

He is not a good person, are you sure you want to take him back.

I keep writing these words from Maya Angelou "when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time round"

Defo go to your friends party

He's a whining controlling arse, crying about his birthday.

Another vote for go to the party