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Wtf who can interpret this

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Getoverthis · 05/04/2023 21:58

My radio packed up after 12
years ( a lovely pure evoke ) I ordered a new one after weeks of debate ( £36 Amazon )
My husband has seen the email and is fuming because I never bought a decent (expensive) radio .
I am not currently working due to health issues . I have cancelled the order because he made me feel bad , I don’t buy hardly anything for myself as I feel guilty but we are not poor .
why does he react like this ?

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DatingDinosaur · 05/04/2023 22:08

Because he's a knob?

Hope you told him to STFU.

Un-cancel the order and just turn the radio up real loud to drown out his pointless bleating in future.

Don't ever feel bad for buying something you want if you can afford it.

Did I mention he's a knob?

Theaxiomofequality · 05/04/2023 22:10

Controlling much?!

pictoosh · 05/04/2023 22:13

"My husband has seen the email and is fuming because I never bought a decent (expensive) radio ."

I'm sorry I'm being a bit dense. What annoyed him?

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Getoverthis · 05/04/2023 22:14

Yeah to think he rang me from work to moan I bought a cheap radio .
This is the same man who bought a £3 k watch for himself …… then asked if I wanted a £40 pair of earrings for Xmas from ……. Warren James 😕.

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Original poster
Getoverthis · 05/04/2023 22:16

pictoosh · 05/04/2023 22:13

"My husband has seen the email and is fuming because I never bought a decent (expensive) radio ."

I'm sorry I'm being a bit dense. What annoyed him?

He was annoyed I didn’t buy a Roberts radio or similar.(or so he says )
I just don’t get why it bothers him .

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Spottycarousel · 05/04/2023 22:17

Honestly if he bought a 3 grand watch for himself he has no right to be angry that you paid £36 for something you really wanted

You're not a child and he has no right to treat you like one.

I would un-cancel the order and seriously re consider the relationship if he's this controlling.

OrlandointheWilderness · 05/04/2023 22:18

He's an idiot. I have a £5 battery powered radio that works fab that I've had for 30 years...

WeAreTheHeroes · 05/04/2023 22:19

So did you order the more expensive one instead?

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 05/04/2023 22:19

W*hy does he react like this?
*
Because he is a cock?

Hummusanddipdip · 05/04/2023 22:29

So he's annoyed you bought cheaper rather than more expensive. Or annoyed you bought one at all?

You use it, you're out a radio, buy it. If he says anything again, just tell him you needed to replace the one you had and chose an equal quality unit?

Notsurenotquiteright · 05/04/2023 22:34

How did he see the email?

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Getoverthis · 05/04/2023 22:38

Notsurenotquiteright · 05/04/2023 22:34

How did he see the email?

Joint Amazon account.

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Lilliflip · 05/04/2023 22:40

This isn’t clear.
So he wanted you to buy a more expensive radio? He’s not actually bothered about you spending money and wants you to spend more on a quality radio?
If so I don’t see the problem.

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Getoverthis · 05/04/2023 22:54

Lilliflip · 05/04/2023 22:40

This isn’t clear.
So he wanted you to buy a more expensive radio? He’s not actually bothered about you spending money and wants you to spend more on a quality radio?
If so I don’t see the problem.

I know it’s not clear that’s why im here .
I should be able to buy what I want with no comment from him .
I’m just thinking wtf . I’m spending less not more .

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MrsMorton · 05/04/2023 23:03

This is not about a radio.

Letschangemyname · 06/04/2023 09:25

Is he materialistic and doesn't want a 'cheap name' displayed in the house?

frozendaisy · 06/04/2023 09:41

Do you want a better radio?

I wanted a new radio for the kitchen and knew H would buy a "Roberts" so asked for it for birthday or Christmas or something and there it was an all singing all dancing connectable (great for Spotify) radio.

Still love it 10+ years on.

Get the better radio on his account and enjoy.

Aquamarine1029 · 06/04/2023 09:49

Getoverthis · 05/04/2023 22:54

I know it’s not clear that’s why im here .
I should be able to buy what I want with no comment from him .
I’m just thinking wtf . I’m spending less not more .

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So why don't you just tell him to keep his opinions to himself and that you are more than capable of choosing the radio you want? Why did you back down to him?

Original poster
Getoverthis · 06/04/2023 10:22

@Aquamarine1029 I reordered it .
it’s coming today .
I just don’t get why it bothered him.

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Original poster
Getoverthis · 06/04/2023 10:23

@MrsMorton
whats it about ? Please explain your theory.

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MrsMorton · 06/04/2023 10:27

Getoverthis · 06/04/2023 10:23

@MrsMorton
whats it about ? Please explain your theory.

It's about him disrespecting you. He sounds like a complete prick. What else do you do that makes him angry? Why is he fuming you made a decision without asking him what he thought?

It's about him being a knob. It's not about a radio. The radio isn't the problem. The problem is him.

pepsirolla · 06/04/2023 10:29

Some men, when it comes to gadgets like to think that they know best when it comes to make and model. Spend hours looking at spec and reviews before announcing which is the one. Funnily enough not so interested in some gadgets like washing machines. Saw this when I worked in retail

AgrathaChristie · 06/04/2023 10:30

So he wants you to spend more? Tell him the radio is hundreds, buy the one you want and pocket the difference towards your “ leaving dickhead husband “ fund.

DemonSpawn · 06/04/2023 10:41

He probably thinks buying a cheap brand it will last a couple of months and then go on the scrap-heap - so a waste of money.

twoandcooplease · 06/04/2023 10:56

Enjoy your new radio op!

Tbh if I used my radio that much and it packed in DP would probably treat me to a new one
I don't like your husbands reaction to you buying something for yourself. It's none of his business the cost unless he's buying?