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Wtf who can interpret this

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Getoverthis · 05/04/2023 21:58

My radio packed up after 12
years ( a lovely pure evoke ) I ordered a new one after weeks of debate ( £36 Amazon )
My husband has seen the email and is fuming because I never bought a decent (expensive) radio .
I am not currently working due to health issues . I have cancelled the order because he made me feel bad , I don’t buy hardly anything for myself as I feel guilty but we are not poor .
why does he react like this ?

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MyriadOfTravels · 06/04/2023 11:07

I suspect he is controllig in that way in other ways right?

Fwiw being angry that you didn't spend enough money is laughable (I could have understood better quality - but even then, your radio, your choice)
I am wondering if he thinks he should be the one to do all the purchases because he is working and youre not?

MyriadOfTravels · 06/04/2023 11:12

DemonSpawn · 06/04/2023 10:41

He probably thinks buying a cheap brand it will last a couple of months and then go on the scrap-heap - so a waste of money.

Its a radio!
The last one the OP had lasted 12 years... Why would the new one last only a few months?

Seriously, I get the idea of buying good quality stuff but

its a radio. Buying good quality is more likey to mean paying for the brand than something that will last only a few weeks.
It's only £36. Seeing he is happy and can affor a £3k watch, I think its an ok purchase to do
Most importantly, it's the OP's choice!! He doesn't get to tell her what to buy, when or what quality. She bought what she wanted - whatever the reasons. He doesn't get to tell her what tp do. The only time when a discussion should happen is when the purchase is impacting negatively on the whole family. Which is NOT the case here. See point above

candieland · 06/04/2023 11:53

I'm on your husband's side. I don't like it when anyone in my house buys cheap tat to "save" money because that will need re-buying anyway. But that's provided he was just irked, and not actually rude or disrespectful in how he approached it.

candieland · 06/04/2023 11:55

Ah sorry I missed that it's your personal radio rather than a household radio. I would say he's allowed to be a tiny bit annoyed (especially if your finances are joint), but he needs to ultimately respect your choice of brand.

DilemmaDelilah · 06/04/2023 11:55

It's not about him not wanting you to get a radio. It's about the fact that it was a cheap radio. I don't understand what your problem is - just get a more expensive radio!

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