DH (48) following 18-25 year old random women on social media

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I just feel disgusted with him. 60ish accounts on his instagram and Twitter account with young, attractive women. Some naked, some just posting photos in low cut tops etc, and some just attractive women he obviously likes the look of. Not all of them big accounts, so I’m sure they would have noticed his follow notification pop up.

I rarely use my Instagram, and logged in for the first time in years to find this shit a few months ago. I have tried to move on and forgive him, but I’m just increasingly angry. He was very sorry and deleted it all without being asked, but still, I find him pathetic.

Am I overreacting? I feel like leaving him. Given me the creeps that he is clearly wanking/lusting after young women 30 years younger than him.

He says he wasn’t trying to start anything with any of them, but why follow them if he wasn’t trying to create a connection and get their attention?

The vast majority of women temper any attraction they might have for you get men with the awareness that they would not reciprocate it.

It's men like this, who don't/can't do that, and are seeking younger people out online and following their SM and sex work profiles, that come across as creepy/sleazy/inappropriate.etc.

And as I said ; I bet if you asked even young people about their partner doing this with 60 people of the opposite sex; they would not be ok with it.

A similar thing happened to me with my stbxh, he is 10 years older than me. We had been together for around a year and he had a lot of history with internet dating before we met. We were lying in bed one Sunday morning and the stupid twat he accidentally sent me a message for a woman he was following on Instagram, she was in a bikini and he was telling her how hot she was. I went rather crazy and told him how disrespectful it was and also sleazy (he has two daughters who are late 20s / early 30s) he promised never to do it again and deleted his IG account for a while. That was the first nail in the coffin. A couple of years later I had a feeling something was off and checked his laptop only to find he had signed up to a dating website (all my fault for not being attentive to his needs) - I was gutted absolutely gutted, to me he may well have had a full blown affair and so we split up for 4 months and then stupidly reconciled. We split up again a month ago because quite frankly I do not believe a word he says and I wished I had trusted my gut when he sent me that first message. Trust is the very foundation of a relationship and without it it drives you crazy, makes you anxious and turns you into a loonatic, well it did for me. The sleaze factor alone is enough of a turnoff and I would not blame you one bit for ending it now, save yourself the pain.

I get why this creeps you out a bit. I know why people are saying all straight guys fancy younger women on some level, (probably true), but then there are the guys who specifically fancy only 18-25 yo women and lose interest after that (Leo D). There is a difference and I'd maybe be wondering which camp your DH is in.

Did you say you were 18 and he was 28 when you had a baby with him or is my maths wrong?

There's obviously nothing wrong with that on its own, but I would be wondering if he has any interest in women who aren't young. It is a bit off and disrespectful to you as well, but he did delete it immediately so there's that