Anyone else love chatting on tinder / bumble ?

[madeingermany]

I really do and I've learned so much.
I've made friends with some fantastic men having met them on tinder but my whole experience has been that of chatting to married / attached men who are lonely and in sexless relationships. I didn't know initially that they were married obviously but it would gradually come out.
I am shocked at how easily they can compartmentalise.
So many of them.
In fact the majority that I chatted to .
Has this been your experience ?

I think you need to get a life, to be honest.

I've made quite a few friends OLD which I wasn't expecting.

A few of the men I've spoken with I've strongly suspected were partnered.

It has really made me think about my next relationship and a) how special he needs to be and b) how much I will need to put in to keep him happy.

I do like the chat. I also chat to people via Reddit (non-dating - just for fun) and that can be really interesting.

What about how much he'll need to put in to keep you happy?

Oh those poor men OP in their lonely sexless marriages. I wonder why it only comes out later that they're married?

Grim.

Yeah my husband did this.

They’re probably not that fantastic if they’re married and on OD no matter how shit their marriage is

It's such a cliché isn't it. Oh so lonely. Oh such a sexless marriage.

OP. These are code words for "selfish twat, not a net contributor".

Grim.

How much you’ll have to do to keep him happy? Perhaps these married men should stop whining and moaning on Tinder and re-engage with their marriages or split! Who wants of them? No sane woman!

I can't think of anything worse tbh.

Why would you even want to be friends with married men????

Well they're not fantastic are they?

But, yes, there are many many many married men on dating sites.

You start chatting to them at 10pm (created their profile after wife in bed) , have a lovely chat for a few hours and poof, the next day profile vanished.

Well that's pretty vile.

I keep my conversation with married /attached men, above board and not on dating sites FFS.

Nice friends to have

Hmm, I smell bullshit OP...

Why is this a positive thing? Let's be honest, none of you are on tinder or bumble to make friends. They're there for sex outside of their marriage. Scum.

Yeah my husband did this. Pretty much said that word for word as well (once he actually admitted that he was married). Guess what? He absolutely wasn't in a sexless marriage. I was the mug doing everything to try to keep him happy. This is so, so grim 🙄I really hope this is a wind up to be honest.

It's not a wind up at all.
It want my intention to offend and those married and attached men were deleted very quickly but I made some lovely friends who aren't attached.
Not all of them are after sex. Some are just lonely and looking to make friend ms. Yes .. single ones .

I honestly can’t imagine anything more dull than waiting for a conversation with a married man in a sexless marriage to unfold. It must be the most predictable conversation ever, peppered with little attempts at gaining sympathy and luck-trying. I certainly wouldn’t find it interesting. Why would any self respecting woman engage in communications knowing they’re a bit on the side?

my whole experience has been that of chatting to married / attached men

but I made some lovely friends who aren't attached.Not all of them are after sex.

which is it? What is the point of your post

Yeah I also believe what creepy men on dating sites say

@madeingermany how old are you OP? As we get older it isn't easy to establish new friendships and I can't imagine searching OD in the hope to find a male friend.

No offence here taken from me. It sounds like it's more about the men than your needs... Good luck though!

I wouldn't like a man who is chatting when he is at work or when it's his time with his family and he's sitting there texting me.
They must be fishy if all they want is fantasy land chatting. Blokes usually keen to meet and shag they rarely sit and chat for ages unless they are hiding something such as catfishing with appearance.
It's not a genuine friendship and you don't really know people chatting on apps so they aren't fantastic

I think you need to work on your naivety, OP. No one here is going to think 'what a revelation, maybe I'll give this a try' because not many people would think wasting their time using a hook up site to forge 'friendships' is a fun thing to do. We all know there are lying cheats out there just waiting to try their luck on desperate women, but actively seeking them out would be frankly weird. You're not making friends. Stop being gullible.

I must have not explained myself very well.
I've made several friends from on line dating sites , that I meet and do enjoyable friend stuff with.
The attached men , when I realised they were attached, I deleted them.
My point was that I was shocked at how many married me are on there ... the majority were attached ...
and I have made some lovely friends from it in real
Life .