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Anyone else love chatting on tinder / bumble ?

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madeingermany · 29/03/2023 16:26

I really do and I've learned so much.
I've made friends with some fantastic men having met them on tinder but my whole experience has been that of chatting to married / attached men who are lonely and in sexless relationships. I didn't know initially that they were married obviously but it would gradually come out.
I am shocked at how easily they can compartmentalise.
So many of them.
In fact the majority that I chatted to .
Has this been your experience ?

OP posts:

GreyCarpet · 30/03/2023 07:32

I prefer to make real life friends through hobbies and actually having a life tbh.

I have a friend who does OLD and has made lots of 'lovely female friends'... the reality is that he's hoping every single one of them will eventually want him for more than friendship and they are not genuine friendships (we can all see that) but lonely people who have found a way to feel less lonely 🤷🏻‍♀️

arethereanyleftatall · 30/03/2023 08:00

madeingermany · 30/03/2023 07:26

I must have not explained myself very well.
I've made several friends from on line dating sites , that I meet and do enjoyable friend stuff with.
The attached men , when I realised they were attached, I deleted them.
My point was that I was shocked at how many married me are on there ... the majority were attached ...
and I have made some lovely friends from it in real
Life .

This one makes much more sense that your op, and I agree with you.

I was on OLD for a few years and whilst I wouldn't call some of them fantastic, they did provide a fascinating insight in to the minds of men (the not good ones). It was naughty of me, but I did go on some dates with men who I absolutely had no interest in (for example they'd have said in the chat something like - well I did have affairs but ex was a psycho) just to delve deeper in to their psyche - which I would use as fodder to then discuss with ny girlfriend in a 'why would he behave like that' way.

GoodChat · 30/03/2023 08:04

madeingermany · 30/03/2023 07:26

Ah that makes much more sense! They're two separate points that you're making. I understand now.

Id unwatch the thread if I was you as people aren't going to read your update and will continue to respond to the opening post.

Ursualesther · 05/04/2023 10:21

So what you’re saying Op is that you’ve met loads of men on dating sites that when you’ve met up in RL there’s been absolutely no sexual attraction or fancying whatsoever.

So instead you’ve become friends?

Doesn’t sound like dating apps are doing what they’re meant to be doing for you does it? As presumably you’ve joined them to find a love interest?

AbsolutePixels · 05/04/2023 12:17

If this is your idea of a good time, you probably need to take a look at where things are going wrong in your life! 😂

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