Coercive control?

[Doodles29]

Hi all.
I am looking for some insight please.
I have been with my partner for one year and am beginning to notice some perhaps controlling behaviour in our relationship. I wasn’t sure if I was being too awkward about things - so I let a few things slide and now I am noticing it more. Only little things it seems, but I will provide one example:

It is his flat and I stay with him for three nights per week. One weekend we found a spider in the kitchen and kept trying to catch it but it would run away. He then caught it, trapped it under a glass and put it on the window ledge.

I tried to put the spider outside but he told me not to. The spider in the glass has been sat there now for a month.
I have tried on a couple of occasions to get rid of it, but he says he will be cross with me if I do as I will go against what he has asked.

Is this an example of control? Or am I being unreasonable?

Thank you.

It's not the best example as it could be more about irrational spider fear than beig controlling as such. Got any other examples?

I wouldn’t just describe him as controlling, I’d say he’s a controlling weirdo. Trust your instincts.
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Anyone think the spider could still be alive after a month?!!

This man is doing this to you because you let him. Stop letting him control you

They can do without food for weeks, I think. Lack of access to water is more of an issue.

He's testing your boundaries, he's seeing if you will defy him. There is no positive outcome, whether you defy him or not.

He allowed a living creature to die in a torturous manner, it may have only been a spider, but it is still sick and disgusting, it's like he was also deliberately torturing you along side it!

Red flags billowing in the wind.

Nasty as fuck. Killed a small creature in a cruel way. You should run as fast as you can from this fucking weirdo.